Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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GZUSthug 09/20/2008

YEP, I'M NEW TO THE GROUP AND I'M A CLASSIC LAID BACK, EASY-GOING STUFFER. WHICH MEANS I PUT UP WITH SHIT FOR MONTHS OR YEARS AND THEN, LIKE A VOLCANO, I EXPLODE WITH INSTANT DESTRUCTION.

I NEED HELP, AND I WONDERED WHAT ARE SOME WAYS I CAN CONSTRUCTIVLY CONFRONT THIS ISSUE?

deleted_user 09/21/2008

In my experiences I was a "stuffer" as well. I thought I would sound too demanding or a complainer if I said anything when something bothered me. You may find it helpful to realize what bothers you and communicate that before "stuffing" it away. Get to know yourself about what makes you angry or annoys you before exploding and trust me you'll go there a few times before getting hold of it. Instead of confronting the people that surround you with anger leave and let them know why and come back when you can talk and not explode. I have found that if I address the "shit" while it's happening and let who ever the distributer may be know that I don't like their actions/behavior. You can also approach them with some kind of solution that helps you. The bottom line is you don't like exploding in anger and "shit happens". I was the one that had to change my explosive reactions to the crap that happens in my life by communicating my displeasure or I would just keep getting angry. I hope I helped you.

GZUSthug 09/21/2008

YOU DID, THANK YOU.

deleted_user 09/22/2008

I'm a stuffer as well. If you meet me in person I come across as the sweetheart, laid back, go with the flow kind of girl and usually I am but when someone hurts me or does something that upsets me, I used to not talk about it. Now after a bad break up in an unhealthy relationship, I am trying to talk about things that do hurt me or piss me off at the moment that it happens. And if I cant talk about it, I journal it - anything to get it out of my system and for me not to stuff anymore.

GZUSthug 09/23/2008

I THINK THAT'S MY BIGGEST FAULT OF BEING WHAT I CALL A NON-CONFRONTATIONAL COWARD. PEOPLE SCARE ME. ESPECIALLY THOSE THAT I KNOW THAT HATE ME OR THINK I'M NO GOOD.

I DON'T TALK TO THEM UP FRONT ABOUT WHAT THEIR BEEF IS WITH ME, AND I JUST BUILD UP ANGER FOR THAT PERSON UNTIL THEY COME IN CONTACT WITH ME AND SAYS SOMETHING HATEFUL WHICH SETS ME UP FOR EXPLOSION AND THEN THE CONSEQUENCES OF THAT ACTION.

I THINK I NEED TO START CONFRONTING MY FEAR OF PEOPLE AND START TALKING AND CONFRONTING THEM IN A CIVILIZED MANNER.

bluesun 09/23/2008

i've been pissed of all my life so right now i'm attending an anger management class. if this doesn't help me i will try for one on one AM. have you tried a class yet? or maybe a counselor? by the way, you can join the "rant room" group when ever you need to vent or just respond to others vents. it helps me feel better and so i thought maybe it could help you, too.

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