Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Does anyone have anything they've learned to share?
I know to pay attention to how I'm feeling and if I notice any anger, it is probably best to take a break and continue the conversation only after I've engaged in another acitivity for atleast 20 minutes until I've forgotten what I was angry about.
I've learned to avoid trigger situations like certain people or topics that I'm not comfortable with.
I know I need to take care of myself and make sure I'm eating and sleeping right so I am not too fragile.
I know I need to not be in a rush and be running late as I am more likely to be stressed and angry.
Yoga and meditation are helpful for me to remain calm.
I've learned to direct anger...
Figure out why I am angry, and what I would like.
And I use the serenity prayer which reminds me I don't have power over other people and I have power over my attitude...
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Anger can be useful as it clues us to the fact that something needs changing, and if I can accept I can't change other person and only change myself, and start with my attitude (attitude of gratitude) then maybe I can get through this.
I've also found it helpful on a counselor's suggestion to throw ice cubes at a wall (outdoors), they make a nice sound and don't do any damage. I say "no" as I throw them and imagine the offense I am saying no to.
When I'm yelling, it's too late. I hate those public displays of anger.
When the other person is yelling, I can walk away. Once people are yelling, the communication loses effectiveness.
What tools have you learned or do you use?
I know to pay attention to how I'm feeling and if I notice any anger, it is probably best to take a break and continue the conversation only after I've engaged in another acitivity for atleast 20 minutes until I've forgotten what I was angry about.
I've learned to avoid trigger situations like certain people or topics that I'm not comfortable with.
I know I need to take care of myself and make sure I'm eating and sleeping right so I am not too fragile.
I know I need to not be in a rush and be running late as I am more likely to be stressed and angry.
Yoga and meditation are helpful for me to remain calm.
I've learned to direct anger...
Figure out why I am angry, and what I would like.
And I use the serenity prayer which reminds me I don't have power over other people and I have power over my attitude...
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Anger can be useful as it clues us to the fact that something needs changing, and if I can accept I can't change other person and only change myself, and start with my attitude (attitude of gratitude) then maybe I can get through this.
I've also found it helpful on a counselor's suggestion to throw ice cubes at a wall (outdoors), they make a nice sound and don't do any damage. I say "no" as I throw them and imagine the offense I am saying no to.
When I'm yelling, it's too late. I hate those public displays of anger.
When the other person is yelling, I can walk away. Once people are yelling, the communication loses effectiveness.
What tools have you learned or do you use?
The other thing, if I must speak to the person and address the issue, I must walk away and PLAN what I am going to say so that it doesn't come out a screaming, tearful, angry mess.