Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
I been with this guy for 3 years. Here lately idk why im here. We have children together. Things have gotten pretty bad between us. Physical from both ends. At first it was me. But now its more him. Its my fault? Or atleast thats what he makes it seems like. I get so angry at him for things he says are stupud reasons. Hes done drugs behind my back hes gotten on fb nd talkes to his drug homies nd i get mad about it. He hides things nd says hes avoiding the fight. But if he was real with me there wouldnt be a fight. He does things that bother me so bad nd he just wont stop. Am i the one causing all this? How can i let go of these feelings?
Gosh guess it just opens the door to bad behaviour
Sounds like he's a drug addict and you need to go to al-anon, they will support you to not obsess about his behaviour and how to detach yourself from his bad behaviour.
Unfortunately you have very wobbly ground to demand the right to choose his friends and ban him from them. I didn't like my 2nd being friends with a serial cheater I thought that makes him a bad person and it's the old tarred with the same brush thing
He didn't listen to me and he was making plans to make me stay at this guys house for his birthday in February. I said if I see his wife I will tell her he's cheating on her. And I was made to feel like a bad person for threatening that, so I guess I was going to live it
But behold guess what the bloke who has no respect for women and hurts hearts did? Raped my bf mates sister in their own family home this Christmas
So he's finally decided to ditch the loser. Unfortunately they believed that a bad person would only treat badly "other people" and they were ok with that
And now I get to say
I told you so
But I'm not going to, lol
Addicts if you read their twelve step book of AA you'll find out that they are masters of not taking responsibility and if he's blaming you for "making him" hit you just cos your angry then he sounds abusive
Perhaps the two of you should learn how to fight fair when your in a bad place? Then maybe you'll feel less urges to hit each other
Let things slide
What exactly are these little things making you angry?
Don't you also want to avoid the fight???
Sounds like he's crying out for a peaceful home life and to just be able to relax and have a good time
If you don't problem solve it then his escape behaviour of going out and drugging will probably get worse
It might not be solvable if he is a drug addict until he gets into recovery. In which case you got to change your self so you feel ok despite his actions
Or try and find someone else who isn't an addict