Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Hi,
I am reaching out to this group because I need some help. I've always been told I have an aggressive character, and I would say that it stands true because I do not back down from things I stand for, and I will make it short and clear before I blow up not to mess with me.
Today I'm reaching out because just like many days I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and felt as if someone were to mess with me I would just smash there face in. Now I don't go that far, but Sometimes I'm so short tempered it's too much. Like today I was just going to keep to myself and then I got a phone call saying that I owed money on a credit card I closed a long time ago with a balance of $0.00 when i closed the card, and had a late fee as well on top of what they said i supposively "owed" them. I freaked out and smashed my desk, ran around my place swearing, called the company and screamed in anger at the customer service man.
It's not the money factor that pissed me off, it's the fact that they would mess with my personal stuff. (plus the fact this company already ripped me off one time and tried to do so again. Long story..).
It's hard to relate to people myself because I'm always on another level and do things most people wouldn't (not necessarily bad) do.
People's ignorance and stupidity definitely makes me very mad. I realize we are all human, and even I make mistakes occasionally. But crap like this just throws me overboard. I used to have terrible road rage.
Anyway, just advice to stay calm, and think rationally in situations like that would be great. Thanks!
I am reaching out to this group because I need some help. I've always been told I have an aggressive character, and I would say that it stands true because I do not back down from things I stand for, and I will make it short and clear before I blow up not to mess with me.
Today I'm reaching out because just like many days I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and felt as if someone were to mess with me I would just smash there face in. Now I don't go that far, but Sometimes I'm so short tempered it's too much. Like today I was just going to keep to myself and then I got a phone call saying that I owed money on a credit card I closed a long time ago with a balance of $0.00 when i closed the card, and had a late fee as well on top of what they said i supposively "owed" them. I freaked out and smashed my desk, ran around my place swearing, called the company and screamed in anger at the customer service man.
It's not the money factor that pissed me off, it's the fact that they would mess with my personal stuff. (plus the fact this company already ripped me off one time and tried to do so again. Long story..).
It's hard to relate to people myself because I'm always on another level and do things most people wouldn't (not necessarily bad) do.
People's ignorance and stupidity definitely makes me very mad. I realize we are all human, and even I make mistakes occasionally. But crap like this just throws me overboard. I used to have terrible road rage.
Anyway, just advice to stay calm, and think rationally in situations like that would be great. Thanks!
It's good that you don't back down for things that you stand for, but maybe try to be less aggressive with it and more assertive. You can be assertive in what you believe without being aggressive! You might come across the wrong way if you say things in a certain tone.
With situation like with that credit card guy, try to remember that he works there but he didn't necessarily do anything to personally fuck with you lol. That's like when I'm waiting on a table and a customer flips shit on me because we ran out of mac and cheese. They act like it's my fault that we ran out, but really I had nothing to do with it lol. Maybe try to see it from the other perspective.