Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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sa90 12/28/2013

Hello all....
I been married since last Dec.Our married life has been so very beautiful and I love my husband and so does he.He is abroad now and I will flying to him by next month.
The problem is everytime we talk on the phone we begin to fight over SILLY things....I scream like crazy and end up crying...Been a routine now.
The reasons are silly! at times the reasons would be that I couldnt answer his call because I was busy... :\ I just want to keep calm....but i cant :(

deleted_user 12/28/2013

Is he pressuring you because you could not answer his call ? Sometimes that is just his way of dealing with worry or loneliness.

On another hand, he could be having trust issues either real or imagined (to Him)

Its a hard issue. Did the problem really seem to start when he went away ? Separation can do awful things to the heart.

sa90 12/29/2013

He has been away for 6 months now. At first things were fine, during the first few months. But now for the last 1 or 2 months this has become a routine. Lets talk about today, he called a while back and there goes another fight. It was my sister's wedding 2 days back and I couldn't send him a pic of mine as I was really busy. I think my love for him is fading. Im afraid.

deleted_user 12/29/2013

Why don't you guys just make an agreement you won't fight anymore? Good Luck.

PinterestFan 12/29/2013

It's difficult to be away from your spouse, especially when you've only been married a short time. You can begin to feel deserted - even if you know that isn't the case, or one person can become insecure, afraid the distance will change one of you... loneliness... lots of fear in a lengthy separation.

Since it's becoming a pattern, and you want to stop, maybe, right after the call, you could jot down what was said that angered you,
or if there was something that made you feel insecure about things - maybe a sigh or a disaproving tone, or you thought that he was distracted - possibly using the pc while you were talking -- it would be better to ask him at the moment if it's something he says or does that upsets you. It may not be about him -- just a suggestion.

I hope you have a great trip, next month, and things get better soon.

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