Hi,

Yes, I can relate. They do not change. My mother still treats me like I am 5 sometimes. I have to keep reminding her that I am not, lol.

Shar

LoL...the visual of throwing a city bus was too funny. When I try and tell my mother something, she plays one of her two favorite cards: "I can't remember everything - do you know how old I am?" or, "I've been doing this longer than you have." WTF?! Definitely a challenge for we who have anger issues!

Not quite the same but I'm a 20 something living at home still due to the shitty economy but I can definitely relate to parents driving me nuts.

OMG yes. This month has been particularly bad, also found the vision of throwing a city bus at them as hilarious.

YES. In fact I plan to see a therapist to help me figure out a way to have my mother in my life in a way that's comfortable and makes sense to me.

Relatives have a special talent to infuriate - and a lifetime of practice to hone that talent...

Hi,

I think Tommy hit the nail on the head about families' ability to infuriate. Somehow with our history, they can push buttons like no one else.

Shar

Somebody told me just to keep reminding myself 'you don't choose your family'... it's been working. My folks aren't bad people, but if i had to 'choose' they would certainly be more sophisticated in terms of reading/knowledge rather than guessing and making assumptions based on singular examples from 52 years ago!!!!

After all what happend to Unlce Miltie with his landlord in 1947 has soooooo much relevance to what happens to Neilster with his property management company in 2012, right? :) Our banking issues are comparable, hmm?? Women then and now -exactly the same!! HHAHHAHAHA.. ok ok ok ok i give up... you don't choose..

Yes...I can relate. I just keep them at arms length and in small doses. I can't be around them too long or too often, I can't talk to them on the phone very often, and I do not - DO NOT - share personal information about them that needs 'guidance' in their minds. I've never shared with my mom some of the most hurtful, stressful or difficult things I've dealt with because her treating me like I'm a child comes out. It's never a helpful hand, it's an instruction of how I should have done it or need to do it. I decided a long time ago, they are going to do what they are going to do, and as far as my life is concerned, I share my good times and only share frustrations after they have passed and been resolved. Otherwise, I end up pissed off and frustrated and need to go see a therapist just to deal with anything.
You are not alone, and I'm sorry....I know it's irritating.

Phew.. yeah.. my mom is not easy but my father drives me into anger.. i'm sure my parents are the reason my brother died last year at 44 from a heart attack.. my parents have made us both have to scream and stress to the nth degree since we were both kids just to be heard. My bro's gone and now i think i have to lose my dad too.

In my family when my parents get sick, we know they are feeling better when they start arguing again. That's how messed up they are when it comes to they way they "get along". So yes, a visual of a bus going to the opposite coast of my country appears quite often when i think of them.