Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Im angry im always angry at everyone and everything. Im angry at my mother im angry at the people around me im angry at the weather im angry at the government im angry at cruel people im angry at injustice im angry at this unfair world im angry at myself simply im just always always angry. I shout i scream i break things i hurt myself and i hurt the people around me when im angry, yesterday i had a fight with my mother as usual, i broke the frame on my wall i broke the candles on my desk i cut myself with the glass and i bruised my mother's arm and thats just an example. I got suspended from school so many times that i lost count. I beat up other students at school if the provoke me i talk back to my teachers as rude as i can get and for god's sake im turning into a monster i cant do this anymore i cant let it happen. When im angry i cant control myself and i face a very difficult time breathing and very often i pass out because my blood pressure gets really high.
Why are you angry?
I was watching Dr. Phil or some show like that the other day with a very ANGRY girl....
Yea, it was Dr. Phil...and it was a while ago....the girl was really angry at her father for leaving and then making his new girlfriend his priority and the girl felt like he was never there.
Today Steve Harvey had 2 teen boys (14) and they are very ANGRY kids....punching holes in walls....etc....and they told Steve...it was anger toward their father for leaving and not paying much attention to them.
So because these shows are in my head right now and your posting about mostly the same examples of anger....I wonder? Are you angry at your Dad? Or did someone else desert or hurt you?
One suggestion I have is that you spend more time getting in touch with exactly what you feel. Anger is often an emotion that covers other emotions. Anger is wild, but the emotions underneath are often more subtle and more varied. You might consider writing in a journal about how you feel about everything in life...in my own experience, I've been able to see past anger to uncover my feelings of sadness, inadequacy, fear, regret, and so on. These other emotions are often the root of anger, so learning to identify them in ourselves can be helpful. We can deal with these underlying emotions and cope with them.
Also, it's important to be fully honest with yourself about your violence. Except in self defense or the defense of others, violence is not acceptable. Ever.
Apologizing to the people you hurt would be a good step toward healing. Also, making a strong commitment to never being violent again will be important.
I hope you're feeling better, and please keep us up to date on this board about how you're doing.
Controlling the "anger" emotion when you are STILL in the situation of dealing with your Mom is very difficult I assume.
Being that you are only 16...you really can't move out unless you can move in with a relative. Are there any relative's that you would want to live with?
The only other ways I can see you getting better...is getting into counseling....or contacting CPS (Child Protective Services) on your own and asking for FREE counseling and telling them what is going on?
I know being 16 in itself can be a very rebellious stage of life especially if we are involved in a dysfunctional family. I was kicked out at 17....but for some reason my psychological makeup did not turn my FEAR to anger...but turned my FEAR to survival.
My son used to punch walls and hurt himself by doing that....I tried to tell him many times he was hurting himself when he was mad at his brother. Or me. BUT, nothing changed with my youngest..until he was "removed" from this environment..but he left on his own and he was older.
He is much happier now....without dealing with the daily stress of being around mostly his brother but me too. He texts me daily and his anger seems to be in more control.
You need someone "functioning" to talk to...someone that is skilled to understand and give you guidance....CPS is all I can think of for you if you don't have coverage for the Drs.