Anger also trails me around, and I'm sorry that you're suffering in the same way. One thing that helps me is to analyze the root of the problem, which is often different than the thoughts and feelings that are on the surface. Getting to the bottom of why I'm angry takes some time and thought (talking on boards like this helps, as does writing in a journal, talking to other people, etc.). But once I get to the root cause, I usually feel better, although not perfect.

Please keep us up to date on how you're doing. Talking helps.

I can relate a lot to this too. And I agree that it helps if you can find out what's hidden underneath.

I sometimes feel stuck like I have no options, like others are having control over me. It causes me to be afraid (of being controlled my someone - childhood fears), and I react almost like a toddler sometimes just fighting back. Sometimes for me it's even just perceived helplessness and the other person isn't really doing anything to control me; I guess it just reminds me of past stuff in ways.

Do you think there are other emotions that build up too much and might be causing the anger? Maybe think about a specific situation and what might've triggered you then?

Have you ever had a time when you felt the anger but didn't express it? Would you know what made you take that pause before reacting? I'm just learning to identify these things. I think it helped after I discovered those underlying emotions. I'm starting to recognize when I'm feeling afraid or panicky, and it reminds me that I'm probably going to get angry (or more angry, to that lose-it point). Then sometimes I can get myself to take deep breaths and walk away til I'm calmer to talk it out. But tbh I still go off a lot.

It also seems to help when I'm calmer to define what I can and can't control in an ongoing situation. If there are things I can change, then I try to do something small just to feel more in-control of my life again. If there are things that are purely out of my control, then sometimes it might mean that I'm dealing with a toxic person that I need to remove from my life, or that there are just some things I need to accept or choose to let go of, if they still bring me joy in other ways.

Hope this helps. <3

Have you tried meditation? I've found it helps. There are many tutorials online...just Google how to meditate.

Please keep us up to date on how you're doing.

meditation and yoga have helped me immensely. I use downdog, headspace (both paid for) and yoga with adriene on youtube (free), I try to get my anger out in healthy physical ways such as biking, weightlifting, running, etc.

also shifting my mindset to take a step back when I get angry and ask myself why I am feeling this way, what is triggering me? because that is what anger is, a reaction to a trigger of something inside us. It has nothing to do with the other person, otherwise EVERYONE would be mad about the same things all the time. Not sure if that makes sense but it helps me sometimes. and other times I just know I am in an angry mood, I let my friends and loved ones know I am not in a very good mood and that I would rather say nothing than something out of anger. that seems to help with some of the pressure. hope this helps even a little!!

I agree with Tonisora. Weightlifting yoga and some quiet time for me / reflections on the positive, have made a huge difference. I go to be every night and take a moment of gratitude. Things can be crumbling all around me, but I process the three things that are truly great in life. They change daily. They don’t have to be the same.

Hang in there.