Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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yuisme
yuisme

Hi guys, I am new to this group. I finally came to the realization that I have anger problems. I have only started having issues when I started having serious relationships. It seems I hurt these people I truly care about. I always blamed them, for pushing my buttons and triggering my explosive reactions. But sitting next to a stranger telling his friend to leave his ex, because he truly is an asshole and doesn't deserve him, made it real for me. I realize assholes exist and that I, myself am one. I'm finally accepting it. I can't keep saying hurtful things I want to take back, but can't; I'm tired of seeing the hurt I'm causing someone I love, but no one would believe I love him if they knew how I am. He's so kind and loves me and forgives me everytime, but I don't want to keep doing this to him. I know he deserves better, and I want to be that better person for him. I don't know how, or where to go, but I thought admitting it is the first step, and this would be a good place to start. 


Hello, my name is Yu, and I have serious selective anger issues. I hurt people I truly care about and love. 

Goffrey
Goffrey
My wife is leaving me because I'm the same way. Its never too late to change. I might never get my wife back, but I'm committed to moving past my anger. The biggest thing that changed it for me was realizing I do have a choice and you do to. Don't let yourself say you don't have control, that's not really true and only enables your behavior. Take a deep look at why you are so angry, and try to figure the issue out. Its painful, but its worth so much. You can stop this cycle and maybe even before its too late for your relationship. I don't have the luxury of saving my relationship, at least not realistically, but even so, I'm committed to never letting my anger f**ck up my life again.

Admitting is the first step, and the most important step is what you do after that. Get help, make changes, talk to the people you have hurt (if possible) and DO NOT GET DOWN ON YOURSELF...it'll just feed negative emotions that will get in the way of your recovery. Keep your head up, and you can change your life.