Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Hello everyone. I'm new to posting in those group. I've never labeled myself as having an anger problem. I'm not a violent person, I don't lash out unless provoked. But I can feel anger building up inside me constantly, I get so highly irritated at the smallest things. I shout and curse a lot, I have feelings of wanting to be violent but haven't done so.
Never seen anyone about how I feel, so want advice from other angry people on what works best for you?
Never seen anyone about how I feel, so want advice from other angry people on what works best for you?
Also, now you can take heart that you matter enough for me to spend more time re-writing this. :)
So, first some history:
I've had issues with anger and violence for as long as I can remember. Yelling, cursing, slamming, breaking, etc. At my worst I threw a large rock through a sliding-glass door on one occasion and overturned my kitchen table on another.
I credit God and aging with most of my mellowness now, but I did pick up a few tricks along the way.
Try not to get TOO anything: too tired, too hungry, too stressed, etc. If you do, acknowledge that it is not a good time to deal with anger-provoking people, things, or situations and wait for a better time.
When you start feeling angry, walk away, take a breather, and come back with a different approach.
Ask yourself if the thing you're angry about will matter tomorrow, next week, or ever? We can get so caught up in the moment we lose sight of the big picture.
Avoid perfectionism. Sometimes you just have to say "Good enough!"
Gather background information on the person or situation so you don't react to a misunderstanding.
Let people vent. Sometimes they don't need anything but to be heard.
Make your needs known in a kind way. It is true that no one can read your mind. Don't get angry at someone for not doing what you thought they should do. Ask or tell, then allow them the choice. They may still not do what you want. That's another matter.
Prioritize your happiness. For example, with inanimate objects, if you get angry every time a DVD skips and you can't clean it or get the scratches out, throw it away. Your peace is worth more.
Caution: Don't discard people so easily.
I hope this helps. By golly, I think I may have actually become a grownup with deep and wise advice. 'Bout time!