Yes. Nearly all of us hear have experienced the same sort of sensations and feelings you feel. I know what you're going through. I've been there. And what we try to do is to hold each other accountable for taking the next logical step toward healing and survival. Take it slow and try not to take yourself too seriously - know that this is temporary. As the male in the relationship, your anger flair-ups may be fueling your wife's depression. Stay with your counseling and resolve to get well first, then you can lead your family and assist your wife in getting the attention that she needs. First things first - stay healthy. Make sure that your emotional situation isn't a result of being dehydrated or bad nutrition. Limit alcohol, but drink plenty of water and eat right, and make sure you're getting the amount of sleep that your brain (not just your body) demands. Come clean with your counselor, and unpack the stuff you've been carrying around since you were a kid. This is huge. You can't move on until you solve the junk from before. My guess is, that there is something, maybe a few things that need attention while in the care of a pro. Spill it all, and deal with it. If there's something you're stuffing down, it's probably at the root of the problem. I don't know about you, but I turned to God when I was in the toilet. I had no where else to turn, and found that God was waiting to respond to my calls, and had been there all along. My turning to Him has slowly but surely changed nearly everything in my life for the better. I look back now and I see His amazing love and His direction and guidance in everything I cared about. But it's up to you. You've got to take the necessary steps to set yourself right. Get help, pray and trust. And be patient. Things don't usually turn around over night. Nothing worth having is easy or fast. Know this: In our weakness, God's love and strength is made perfect. Right where you are is right where He wants you. Sometimes our need for God is realized when we lose the ability and the desire to completely take care of our selves and every circumstance in our lives. So resolve to understand your own need for God. He is not in love with the you that you pretend to be. He is not in love with the "perfect" you. He is in love with the true you, even the most pathetic parts. Get down to the true you. It is there that you will experience God, and healing.

I too, have an anger problem. It's something I would never admit to any of my friends. They wouldn't believe that of me, anyway. But my family, those closest to me who know me best definitely know about my anger problem.

If I didn't have God in my life, I don't know where I would be right now. Turn to Him. He is there for you, just waiting for you to come to Him. You can get through this.

I am also new to this group. I will support you the best way I know how in this open forum. First one of the major strains on a marriage research shows is financial struggles. Your wife deals with depression which is an internal struggle within her so you should attempt to support her in that and talk to her and surround her with things that take her mind off of what makes her depressed if possible. It sounds like the strain is coming from finances so attempt to find ways to create additional revenue for your family.