I was having some serious issues with anger right after I started getting sober. The biggest thing that helped me was taking a step back from whatever I was angry at, literally walking away, and saying, okay why did that make me mad and is it in my control? I think a lot of my anger came from wanting to be in control of a situation and not feeling like I had it. Once I had identified what was making me mad and if i could control that person or thing (which you will never be able to do) I would say but I am in control of ME and how I REACT to that situation.

I am slowly getting there but knowing that I am the only thing that I can control makes it easier. message me if you want to talk more.

Thank you that is definitely a option that needs to be serious and truthfully tried. It seems like it is a right way to go. I will keep you up on my progress.

It's not easy and it doesn't happen over night. I still struggle with it daily. Meditation also really helps. When you start practicing meditation regularly, you are able to apply those concepts to real life scenarios.

I agree with what’s being said. When my fog lifted after getting sober, I was angry. What i realized is that i was being a dry drunk.

It tolna program to help me cope and deal with life. I still fly off the handle for little to no reason.

This is a good community.

Just joined. I have struggled with anger my whole life. I have gotten "better" at it since I was younger, but it still lingers below the surface. I think my first step is to admit I have a problem. tonisora is right; figuring out what makes you mad is so important. For me its dissatisfaction with what I have accomplished with my life and when people invalidate me by their actions or words. I am struggling.

I have never drink that much cause I am afraid that being drunk would lose control so bad that I would I would most likely end up in jail. I know if I am not in total control of my mind very bad things can happen. I have thought of meditations but not sure how to even begin.

Hey D.S. Fam. I find myself hating, resenting, loving, disliking, etc., my friends and family. I'm always easily irritated, agitated, annoyed or angry with someone. That's why I stay to myself a lot. A lot of it is do to the severe depression but some is just not liking how some people are anymore, especially when you've had conversations about things they, say do or act often and they don't feel like there is anything wrong with them. We all need to be working on ourselves. Not just the mentally ill. Some people are mentally ill and ate not even aware of it of have been properly diagnosed for it. Right now, I wanna punch my husband in his annoying face. Ugggh. I'm working on my anger.

Keep working on it bullseye!

I’m the same way - the impulse to lash out is so sudden and so powerful that I used to be swept away by it before I had any chance to control it. Now, I’m in therapy and on Seroquel in the hopes of avoiding any episodes.