Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
I was in a relationship 7 years in which my GF was abusivly controlling, always taking my pay check, lying and giving me false hopes....Over time, I became so depressed by all this I could not even get out of bed. The more depressed I became, the more angry I became .
Long story short, it all stated when she drove my truck, with out my permission and blow a head gasket. She lied about driving it at at first and then promised to rehave it repaired. 1 year went by and she never made any attemt at restitution. We had an argument and she she finialy give me a truck she owned that was just as nice as mine was. Fixed right? Nope. A few months later, she was trasferd to Kansas from Florida. Moving day came and she informed me "we" didn't have the gas money to take my truck, but I could go back in a week or so to get it. NOPE, I had to sell via U.S. Mail. Then her car got repo'd because she didn't report the move!!! I ended up with an old junker that needed lot's of work, which over the past 5 years never really got done.
She alway's controlled the money and any time I got up set and tried to talk to her about "our" bills, etc. It would always start an argument...these arguments begain to more intence on both sides with name calling and threats of "I;ll leave you".
This sort of thing went on a few more years and by this time last year I was sick with worry, fear, and depression. I begged her to let me go to a doctor...she promised I could go, but it never happend because "we don't have the money", yet she blow $3000 on a 50in. HDTV!!!. In october and hugh argument broke out between us, over the same old same old and she yelled at me how lazy I was...bla, bla. I snaped and some how as I went to grab her around the waste to try to calm her with what planed to be a hug, she ducked down and I ended up hitting in the face with my forarm. That contact broke her nose. I felt horrible about it.
I had NEVER hit her or evern threatend to do so durning any of our arguments. I also have NEVER been that Pi**ed off before.
Anyway, I never let myself get that angry since and resently learned I was the victem of a controlling relationship....she even admitted that she was controlling and was going to "seek help". I have a friend who saw what was going on and was helping me plan a way out of the relationship. My Ex found out about my plan to leave and so she left instead, (thank god.)
Do I have Anger inssues or was this just a one time thing that built up over 7 years??
Long story short, it all stated when she drove my truck, with out my permission and blow a head gasket. She lied about driving it at at first and then promised to rehave it repaired. 1 year went by and she never made any attemt at restitution. We had an argument and she she finialy give me a truck she owned that was just as nice as mine was. Fixed right? Nope. A few months later, she was trasferd to Kansas from Florida. Moving day came and she informed me "we" didn't have the gas money to take my truck, but I could go back in a week or so to get it. NOPE, I had to sell via U.S. Mail. Then her car got repo'd because she didn't report the move!!! I ended up with an old junker that needed lot's of work, which over the past 5 years never really got done.
She alway's controlled the money and any time I got up set and tried to talk to her about "our" bills, etc. It would always start an argument...these arguments begain to more intence on both sides with name calling and threats of "I;ll leave you".
This sort of thing went on a few more years and by this time last year I was sick with worry, fear, and depression. I begged her to let me go to a doctor...she promised I could go, but it never happend because "we don't have the money", yet she blow $3000 on a 50in. HDTV!!!. In october and hugh argument broke out between us, over the same old same old and she yelled at me how lazy I was...bla, bla. I snaped and some how as I went to grab her around the waste to try to calm her with what planed to be a hug, she ducked down and I ended up hitting in the face with my forarm. That contact broke her nose. I felt horrible about it.
I had NEVER hit her or evern threatend to do so durning any of our arguments. I also have NEVER been that Pi**ed off before.
Anyway, I never let myself get that angry since and resently learned I was the victem of a controlling relationship....she even admitted that she was controlling and was going to "seek help". I have a friend who saw what was going on and was helping me plan a way out of the relationship. My Ex found out about my plan to leave and so she left instead, (thank god.)
Do I have Anger inssues or was this just a one time thing that built up over 7 years??
You were in a messed up relationship, you had every right to be angry. It doesn't appear that you went out of your way to hurt her but only you know the truth in that.
It's hard to identify anger in someone based off one scenario.
My STBEW convinced me that I have an anger issue - I went to some AM classes - check meetup.com they should have some low cost or free classes in your area.
The classes helped me identify anger and how I deal with it. They definitely shed some light on anger for me. I walked away knowing I don't have have an anger management issue because everyone has anger its how you manage it that is the issue.
Best of luck to you.