I replied on the other page..and I have a different reply for this page...when you say Anger is your only weapon...today I look at this topic differently....

Your weapon of Anger is harming you....its self destruction.
Yes, anger hurts the ones that you are acting out on...but deep down...it is you that is hurting.

Keep working with the therapist...to get to the roots and resolutions for the Anger. So you can someday have peace.

Sounds like you had a breakthrough. That's good. It is the first step to correcting this destructive behavior pattern. Keep working with your therapist. He/ she can guide you through new approaches as you discard the old anger habit. New ways to deal with the anger & new ways to communicate will start taking place, now that you know where/ why your anger is coming from. Once you recognize the habit/pattern fir what it is, you won't tend to use it anymore. It becomes ineffective. Yay breakthroughs. :)

Missy is right, in the long run, you are hurting yourself the most. And as Porphyria said, keep working with your Therapist. I think you are going to have a lot of really good breakthroughs. Hugs

when my brother died i lost 4 friends because of my anger ,, it doesnt serve me well,,, my brother was good and bad he molested me bullied me and loved me too,, so the triggers of his death cleared out almost everyone but a few who knew me for years, OMG the anger and i was in early sobriety and i was not emotionally in a place to deal with my brothers death luckily when he died i was still medicating ptsd with alchohol and God kept me from going to the funeral it would have been a disaster my youngest sister drinks and well i am the family scapegoat so beiing medicated on alchohol i some how had sense not to go go figure i knew my sister and i would make a mockery of the funeral and he deserved better than that ,, i am lonely today of my own doing and it is ptsd outburst but only i lose,,,, so i need help and am doing my best to stay safe from things that would trigger me , a year of sobriety and of course my anger is better but i also take a benzo what is under that well i cant know right now i dont remember anytime anger did me a real favor except fight or flight

Hello
First of all Id like to say that I am glad Youve made some progress , thats really good , keep working on it !!!
Also Id like to say something that might sound common for you to hear but hope it will be useful for you in some way .... I spent many years of my life deep in anger , even small situations triggered rage and anger in me and although I wasnt proud of it , I felt like it was a way of protecting myself from some kinda harm , later on I found out that I was trying to protect myself from my own sadness and disasfaction with myself , I used anger so I wouldnt get sad or admit my mistakes and that was killing me each day , maybe on that day you could get a glimpse of how messed up your emotional side became with the years , You should focus on understanding why you built up so much anger inside , plus try working on becoming peaceful during situations that usually trigger your anger but please dont keep it within , instead fight back those angry emotions you get until there is none left at the time , You shall make big progress if You manage this . That weapon you mention may point at others but its pointing at you the most , dont continue to harm yourself !!! Hope You will understand my message , take care and get well !!!

Thanks for you all, guys.
I get what you've said. I'm getting better, made progress again. I'm kind of happy now :)
Have a nice day!

I can relate to you 100%.. Before my mother passed away 6 months ago, I was angry at her up to the end. She was very emotionally abusive and when she pushed one too many buttons with me, my anger would show big time. When she asked me where I had gotten a flashlight and I said I couldn't remember she told me I was a liar. This was the norm with her. I guess my anger really showed because she said if looks could kill.... She said the hatred in my eyes told all. I have never gotten over my childhood, or how she treated me up to the end, even when I was her caregiver in my home for over a year. I too need to see a Therapist but up until now, I can't find any that will accept my insurance. You are not powerless or helpless, it just feels that way. Is your mom still with you? I have a lot of work to do with my anger and know some day I will find a way to deal with it. And so will you. And Missy is correct when saying that it is self destructive. That is correct which is why I need to forgive and let go. I hope you are able to do the same. Hugs GB

i lost alot of support due to anger when my brother died, i am still hurting from his death he was mentally abusive subtley regarding my being gay but more than that i know he abused me as a child sexually and just the death alone would be enough ,, angry words come and they do damage that cannot be taken back i do not like my anger i am in AA but i too was so vulnerable i have an alter ego that is angry and holds the anger of a very vulnerable person when i am open and kind i get my a,,, kicked and been raped and molested how i was such a loving teacher is beyond me