Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Hi all,
My partner can't control himself when we have arguments which make him angry. So far he has thrown my phone and broken it, as well as my glasses case, he kicked our bedroom door in once, and just this morning he slammed a door so hard it left a dint in the plaster of a wall shortly after screaming in m ear.
Arguments are unpleasant but normal, I have tried to tell him that it is his behaviour which does the damage, not the row, but he can't seem to get a hold on it. We have had a LOT of problems but we have always pulled through.
I don't think he would directly hurt me but his behaviour is very distressing and it's very hard to see him break things in our home (although he does always pay to fix them).
He is quick to show remorse, but he can't understand why saying sorry isn't enough. I've tried suggesting he walk away, which sometimes works but not always. I want to help him but I am not sure how? He won't see a therapist or go to anger management.
Has anyone experienced a similar situation? I would be so grateful of any help.
Thanks :)
My partner can't control himself when we have arguments which make him angry. So far he has thrown my phone and broken it, as well as my glasses case, he kicked our bedroom door in once, and just this morning he slammed a door so hard it left a dint in the plaster of a wall shortly after screaming in m ear.
Arguments are unpleasant but normal, I have tried to tell him that it is his behaviour which does the damage, not the row, but he can't seem to get a hold on it. We have had a LOT of problems but we have always pulled through.
I don't think he would directly hurt me but his behaviour is very distressing and it's very hard to see him break things in our home (although he does always pay to fix them).
He is quick to show remorse, but he can't understand why saying sorry isn't enough. I've tried suggesting he walk away, which sometimes works but not always. I want to help him but I am not sure how? He won't see a therapist or go to anger management.
Has anyone experienced a similar situation? I would be so grateful of any help.
Thanks :)
I have had experiences like that. I have been not only on the recieving end but have been on the giving end of fights like that. I almost went to jail once for that. But please please be careful about your arguments with a person that can and does explode. It can lead to physical abuse and that is definately NOT good.
the consequences.
Sending good thoughts.
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"Examine what you tolerate."
Lorinne, thank you for your honesty about having experiences from both sides of those arguments. Can I ask if you found anything which helped you to manage it differently?
Belive me , I hear this from a lot of women. What is this with men always acting stoopit and afterwards saying Iam sorry....?? That works one or two times, but I personally await from a friend or partner that after a while you should first think then act. Or first talk and forgo the crazyness. IDK its not easy sometimes