Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
my son is a good kid. He is 18 & just graduated high school.
He doesn't do any drugs, doesn't want to .
He hasn't ever engaged in risky behavior w/ the opposite sex, doesn't want to.
He has a career goal.
He also has Asperger's Syndrome. He didn't find employment this summer. But that's not really bad is it? Isn't it a situation where the jobs that used to go to teenagers are now being taken by adults, b/c of the tough, harsh economy, right??
I give him work and he is pretty good at doing it. I pay him. But he seems to need direction. He needs really detailed directions and a "push' (not literally) a lot of times. He told me that w/ Asperger's it would be hard to work 40 hrs. a week. That's ok for now b/c he will go to college but what about later????
He's on the computer playing right now. He doesn't have a lot of ambition. I don't know if I should be upset w/ him or me. I could have taught him ambition. It certainly hurt that his mom & I divorced b/c we argued far too much to make things work or last.
I just wish he wasn't hooked so much to his video games. He is soooooo into them! He knows they aren't real, but he speaks almost as though they are. He can speak for 10 minutes straight about a game he played, AND THAT PISSES ME OFF.
But I never have yelled at him about that, never. But I wonder if he would just put that energy into finding a job, wouldn't he be doing a whole lot better?
If I'm upset with my dear son, I'm MORE ANGRY WITH ME !
Things were so much different when I was a kid. I worked on a farm starting at the age of 8. I had ambition. I just think I didn't do enough for my son, I don't think I worked him hard enough.
Does anyone have thoughts about this? Did I screw up? Do I need to get tougher w/ my son? Should I be upset with him?
He doesn't do any drugs, doesn't want to .
He hasn't ever engaged in risky behavior w/ the opposite sex, doesn't want to.
He has a career goal.
He also has Asperger's Syndrome. He didn't find employment this summer. But that's not really bad is it? Isn't it a situation where the jobs that used to go to teenagers are now being taken by adults, b/c of the tough, harsh economy, right??
I give him work and he is pretty good at doing it. I pay him. But he seems to need direction. He needs really detailed directions and a "push' (not literally) a lot of times. He told me that w/ Asperger's it would be hard to work 40 hrs. a week. That's ok for now b/c he will go to college but what about later????
He's on the computer playing right now. He doesn't have a lot of ambition. I don't know if I should be upset w/ him or me. I could have taught him ambition. It certainly hurt that his mom & I divorced b/c we argued far too much to make things work or last.
I just wish he wasn't hooked so much to his video games. He is soooooo into them! He knows they aren't real, but he speaks almost as though they are. He can speak for 10 minutes straight about a game he played, AND THAT PISSES ME OFF.
But I never have yelled at him about that, never. But I wonder if he would just put that energy into finding a job, wouldn't he be doing a whole lot better?
If I'm upset with my dear son, I'm MORE ANGRY WITH ME !
Things were so much different when I was a kid. I worked on a farm starting at the age of 8. I had ambition. I just think I didn't do enough for my son, I don't think I worked him hard enough.
Does anyone have thoughts about this? Did I screw up? Do I need to get tougher w/ my son? Should I be upset with him?
I wouldn't get tougher with him. If he doesn't have any household chores, or needs to learn how to do things for himself (like laundry), now's a good time, before college. (When I left home, I didn't know how to wash clothes or cook) Once he starts studying what interests him, he may look forward to finding work in his field.
I can't believe you had to work at 8 - that's not much more than a baby. Sounds like you really care about his future - support is everything. Might be fun if you found a video game that you both learned at the same time and played together, as long as he could beat you and no one gets mad :)
if you want to help him structure his day then the routine will help him with the addiction, I would think. is he open to working on a schedule with you?