Anger Management Support Group
Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.
Hi everyone.
I decided to do this to help me through my thoughts and to gather advice. My anger has been getting worse and i noticed again i am fighting with my boyfriend all the time.
About a week ago, his buddy sent my bf a picture of a random girl on tinder who he said was going to come over for a party the weekend i was gone. I got upset over that.
The weekend came, and my bf took a snapchat of himself and this random girl who his buddy brought over and said he was trying to date soon, drinking. I got super pissed and told him to fuck off and we talked he apologized, it was ok.
Then he took me out to dinner last night and drinking was involved...and next you know we are fighting, he said something that triggered me and i decided to get out of his moving truck and walk. I thought i ordered an uber, but somehow ended up in a car with an older man who was neither an uber or lyft. I know, Im an idiot. He took me back to my boyfriends house, and my boyfriend did not have his phone because it died and he left it charging at the house. He flipped out and was screaming and crying at me, which i do not blame him... at all. Sad thing is I do not even remember what he said to me that made me so upset. Next thing i know, he is telling me to go home, so myself being stubborn, i got into my car backed up into his truck. (luckily, there were no damages to either vehicles.) I pull back in, and park and tell him I cannot drive home. He goes inside and tells me to leave, so i am in my car crying and have to call my sister.
I know i messed up. We both did. And we are ok now. we both apologized to my sister and his roommates but his one roommate wont even talk to us.
Need advice and support.
Thanks.
I don’t know if you have a drinking problem but there are programs that can deal with both.
You describe how I used to be. I no longer drink and I’m in very few heated situations anymore.
Good job for you to reach out for help, but those morning after “oh shits” are pretty common. It’s what you do after the shame, guilt, and remorse dies off.
This sounds like something I actually could write. Everything about it is how I am. I fought with my BF about everything , and it was 100% worse when we (mostly I) drank. Just 2 weeks ago, we drank, fought, and the next morning we broke up. It’s been the worst 2 weeks of my life and that’s when I realized that I have anger issues and get upset about NOTHING. Now I realize that I should not fight anymore. If I get angry or upset, I get out my phone and text someone I trust, or get on here to determine if it’s a real reason I should get upset. My advice to you is to think about your relationship, imagine losing him. If you don’t want to lose him, then try to fight less. Eventually fighting will drive him away, like it did for my ex. I realize now that nothing I fought about was ever worth losing him. So just next time you get mad or angry, try to think before you act. Best wishes to you and your relationship. If you need someone to talk to when you get angry, you can always reach out to me!