DEB; I am so sorry you are having a tough time right now. Wish I had a magic pill to give you (and all of us). We all have our days. I pray your funk is short lived. You are a great caregiver...the sad thing is sometimes we caregivers need a little care:) Wish I could pop by and give you a hug and sit down and chat and laugh......but since I can't just know I love you and understand, have a cup of tea or coffee, wither put on some music or flip on a comedy take a few minutes just for you...tomorrow is another day and will hopefully be a better one. :)

Sometimes I wonder how any of us stay sane. Sending you a big cyber hug and a wish for a much better day tomorrow. Just as you have helped to pull me back up when I was down I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a better day tomorrow.....Jeanmarie

Just caught this!, I hope today will be better for you. Big hug coming your way.. :-)

I know that feeling. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I didn't take an antidepressant at all. Give yourself as much as a day off or two as you can. Sit on the couch. Why not? But then come back and talk to us and tell us how your feeling.

still not doing to well, I just cry all the time and and can't motivate myself to do anything, I'm not sure what has hit me, I just feel so very depressed

Sorry to hear my dear. I feel like that when I am not busy doing something. I like to keep busy and useful.
I have some time to myself right now after having had such a terrible past 2 weeks with mom.
I keep busy. That seems to help me when I am down. If you can, find a hobby you enjoy and do it. Try to get away from your situation, if you can, and go outside and walk in a nice place outdoors and listen to some nice music and try to think positive. Reading my holy books helps me also. It reminds me that this world is only temporary and we need to prepare for the next.
I hope you feel better!
Pina

Deb, do you have anybody that can stay with hubby for a while?
Get out and take a walk, sit in the sun anything to get out of there.
This is so hard to do and we can only take so much.
Try to get some help for yourself.
We are all thinking of you and we could come sit for you we would.
Get off that couch and get outside.You can do it .If you want or need to talk call one of us. Let me know I'll get my #v to you .

My worker from the VA quit and I don't have anyone to give me a break right now and the kids are all back in school and work full time, so I am kind of stuck until they send me a new one. I feel today that I may be coming coming out of my slump, I simply don't have a single tear left in my body.

Hi, sorry you are having such a hard time! I have been there!
I never wanted to put my mom in the nursing home, but things got so bad that I could not work, eat, sleep or even be a wife to my husband. I finally took her to the emerg room for the 2nd time and I told them that they had to find her a place and I would help, because I could no longer care for her at home. I had to file lots of paper work for her for medicaid and since she does not have much but 2 pensions I believe she is ok for Medicaid. They will take all the mone she had and has to care for her, but it is worth it. She is doing ok now in the place 10 min from me and I go to see her 3 times a day plus I have a worker that baby sits when I can't be there. She is now adjusting to the place. Of course they tried many different drugs but she is adjusting to it. She is comfortable and seems happy. The drugs help her deal with the change. Try to see if you can apply for some help. Talk to a social worker in your area call the alzheimer association. They can help you!
I hope you will resolve your problem!!
pina

I think you needed to do that. Crying is good for the soul. It literally cleans out the bad to let the good come in. You lost your support. That's the worst!!!

Deb,
Don't let this take you down. Can you call the VA and arrange for some respite ? I mean the kind where you take him to the facility for a week. THEN after you finish crying ( about 1 day) get out and do something.. anything.

For 2 days after I took Ron to the hospice house.. tears just spilled out. THEN.. all of a sudden I felt freedom. I felt kind of bad that I felt so good.

Please call the VA today.
Judy