Man, I love you guys!! You just never know whats going to pop up.
Yes, Yes, Yes !!!

OMG, YES, YES, YES. Neal and I had such a wildly happy sex life right up to the time he started getting sick. Even then we were more active then "normal" until his meds made it harder and harder to make things work.
Now it's been nealy five years and I miss it terribly, and all the other ways of being close that couples who are active have of being with each other that slips away from us.

Thank you for answering! I was wondering about it and so I thought, I'm just going to put it out there, I mean we're married women after all.

Sex Whats that? I suppose I cant miss what I dont have.....lol

sometimes I feel like, I don't even remeber it anymore!

Yes... and I think I've forgotten , too.
I miss that playful, teasing part of
a relationship.

I was going to ask you all about that. Ken and I had a great sex life as well. Maybe it was all of the sex that caused the Alzheimer's. Anyway, I do miss it. I wonder what a man who's wife has Alzheimer's does.

I don't know but we were at the VA once and a VERY old man with a walker was in front of us, he was picking up his Viagra! I thought, 'you go, boy"!

There are times when I wish I didn't remember what it was like, would be a lot easier now. Boy was I wrong when I was a kid and thought that "old" people didn't have any interest in sex.
That is another one of those things that causes a twinge of jealousy when I'm out doing something and see an obviously close couple holding hands or giggling together.
But then I talk to so many people who were in totaly crappy relationships and say that they never want to be married or in a relationship again that it's just not worth it and I feel so bad for them that they never had all that good stuff we did.
I may not have it now but I did and it was wonderful and all that love and closeness we used to have helps keep me from resenting him now. do not think I could be as patient and go through this with him if we'd not had that loveing base to work off of.

I think you are so right Georgia,

Absolutely not.......only because my hubby is paraplegic with Vascular Dementia..... on many medications that are supposed to effect the sex drive and he still wants sex much more often then I would like. Most of the time he is accusing me of having sex with other men in our own home.....he is delusional and hallucinates. He just came out of the bedroom and told me there was someone in our bedroom closet.

When we are having sex, I almost can believe that things are almost "normal" but shortly thereafter he might accuse me of having another man in bed with us. When this happens, I think it would be nice if he was not able to perform at all.

I just miss the closeness we used to share. I miss him wrapping his arms around me and hugging me. I miss "making love" not having sex.

Georgia, You are so right! I have many friends in bad relationships and they are not taking care of each other. My friend has cancer and while she was in the process of chemo, her husband took up with a 36 year old. I hear of these stories over and over again. It is the love and passion my husband and I shared with each other that keeps me going now.

Dibbie,

I'm pretty sure that's what keeps us all going.

So sad. I miss it terribly but then I'm not in a relationship of any kind. It must be horrible to have your husband there and not be able to snuggle and giggle let alone get down and dirty.