Ohhh Deb, i so feel for you and Rollie, it won't be long.

Deborah, it is so close. I'm praying he is released from this before day 10.

Please call your hospice.

OMG this is so awful and excrutiating. Is he on anything like morphine, etc.

I just hope this is not what we have to look forward to. Mom is on the last legs of this disease....

Dear Deb,

I don't think it will be long now......


Please call Hospice.........

prayers......

I am truly with you with every ounce of my being .....I only wish I could be hugging you and holding you up.

There are no words as I know so.... let me just say I love you and pray God carry you the rest of the way.....your friend forever Sherri

My heart is breaking for you Deb. I'm praying for his release soon.

Luv you,
Carolyn

Dear Deborah48,
Keep strong. I know easier said than done. All my thoughts, love and prayers. Patricia

The nurse confirmed a person last up to 14 days in this state! I must prepare myself. He is on morphine permanent and also Haledol. He fills a diaper everyday with a light brown FOUL smelling liquid. The nurse said this is kidneys,bowls, etc all emptying themselves. He has random spontaneous jerks of his limbs.

Oh dear. My heart hurts for you and for Rollie. Praying this does not last 5 more days.

My precious friend...I so feel your pain. What you describe is the end ....God shall take him home any time now.

It is so close ...just close his eyes and kiss him good by.

I wish I could hold you right now.......((HUGS))

Such agony for you and the family to endure. Is his breathing regular? How many times a minute does he breathe? Love & prayers for you and Rollie to not have to do this one more day...

Jean, his BP and pulse are normal, :(

Deborah,

From what I just experienced with Ken, it will not go on much longer. My love is with you. I know how very difficult this is. In fact, it is just awful.

Sharon

Deborah,I hesitate to comment here not knowing your spiritual beliefs,or those of Rollie.However,my experiences have shown me that some people have a harder time letting go.

For some reason I have been at the bedside as death came to 7 siblings,both parents,and my husband of 32 years.Also as a nurse I have sat with several terminal patients,when there were no friends or relatives around at their time of death.

Each individuals death was a little different than the others.It was as if they died in a way consistent with their own personalities.It is very hard to explain with words,it almost has to be witnessed.

You are the only one that knows Rollie inside and out .If he is having difficulty letting go,you may be able to figure out how to help him.My experience is that the terminally ill respond to gentle touch more than anything else.Sometimes they just need permission to go.That usually means reassurance that you will be okay after they are gone.
No 2 deaths are the same.Think of your self as a midwife, at the other end of the life spectrum.Rollie is struggling to be born into his next life.How long the labor last is not as important as knowing what it will produce.

What a loving devoted wife and life partner you are.It will be over soon.Blessings .................Cheryl

Good advice, Cheryl. I've seen that as well. Everyone is so different. Rollie was an extremely strong man and most probably will fight to the bitter end. My husband did out of sheer stubbornness. He would not give in even though we told him it was ok to let go. My children and I actually giggle about it now. So typical of him.

Rollie is blessed to have you...... He's going to fight because he has to. Keep your kids close.

Love you