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Been thinking a lot today about the saying "It gets worse before it gets better".
Things are pretty rough for me at the moment. I am trying to deal with some long standing problems, make some changes, it isnt easy and everything feels very unstable and confusing.
It sort of has to be that way. I cant stay with things the way they have been but for them to be different I have to go through a period of pain. I could try and stick with what I am used to and what in a way feels safest but in the long term that wouldnt be good.
I have to accept this time of difficulty is worth it because things will be better at the other side.
When I was drinking pain had no purpose, everything was heading downwards. But now hopefully pain is something I pass through on the way up - something that leads to positive change and growth.
I couldn't see that when I first got sober, I wanted things to feel better right now. But looking back on my journey changes have always involved some growing pains that have taught me patience and that nothing stays the same especially how I feel.
Things are pretty rough for me at the moment. I am trying to deal with some long standing problems, make some changes, it isnt easy and everything feels very unstable and confusing.
It sort of has to be that way. I cant stay with things the way they have been but for them to be different I have to go through a period of pain. I could try and stick with what I am used to and what in a way feels safest but in the long term that wouldnt be good.
I have to accept this time of difficulty is worth it because things will be better at the other side.
When I was drinking pain had no purpose, everything was heading downwards. But now hopefully pain is something I pass through on the way up - something that leads to positive change and growth.
I couldn't see that when I first got sober, I wanted things to feel better right now. But looking back on my journey changes have always involved some growing pains that have taught me patience and that nothing stays the same especially how I feel.
patience is an unsung hero. it is nice to read that you have found it.
best of luck.
I wanted everything right now! (& still do at times). Thankfully, I was taught to sit still and feel the pain, rather than attempt to change it with people, food, sex, etc...
A seemingly impossible task at the beginning. All I knew was to blame others for me not being "OK". Thank God for a sponsor reminding me to turn it over or read this or that page in the big book or "the world doesn't revolve around you". (that one was news!)
When I hit a bottom sufficient for me, I became willing to hurt in order to have a better life although I didn't realize I'd made that choice. No better choice did I ever make. Pain, the touchstone to progress? In my experience, yes. I didn't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happened for once in my life.
I ask for help (HP) my friends, for a hunch a plan of action or a window to just crack to let in some fresh air or light to the situation. And then , follow the direction, for me anythings , almost, is better than like David Byrne's (talking heads says, 'Same as it ever Was....Same as it ever was.... Same as it ever was...patience and trust,,,and following through...scary I know but for me necessary.
Billy
Patience is a hard thing to have sometimes, but I take a deep breathe and say a few prayers, and get on with it yeah. If I have to put up with something for a short time, that's not going to last a lifetime, then it's worth the effort. My prayers for you Nicky. I know you will find the strength inside to keep moving forward. :} CM xxx
You were there and saw how i was when my Dad died and althou i wanted the pain to stop and wanted it all to go away i sat with it and rode through it. Im gald i did cos it has made me a stronger person for it, so althou you may feel like shit its well worth going through that pain to get to where you need to be when the pain stop's