You sound like an alcoholic, my friend! Do you want to stop drinking for yourself? You will find lots of support and good advice here on DS!

Yup, she might have a point?

Wives have a tendency to be insightful about things like this. Might be better to just pack it in and quit altogether...

Hugs,
Dennis

If you cannot stop or substantially alter your drinking by yourself, you have to consider the fact that you have lost control of your drinking and need help in stopping. Only you can come to terms with the fact as to whether you have lost control.

My judgment was so damaged by alcohol that I had to dry out in a supervised medical situation before I gained perspective.

So do you want to stop drinking? If not, you won't.

The Beast says " Stay Thirsty my Friends. "
Booze is bad for us yet we all thirst for it. Crazy ain't it ?....Rock

Try an AA meeting and hear from those both experienced in drinking and sobriety.

It has made a big impact on my new found sobriety.

thanks for all your kind words. Drinking is an inhibitor for me - but do I want to quit? That is a big question. Do I really WANT to quit

As a wife dealing with this, I think you know what 'side' I'm on.....my suggestion would be to try to hear what she is saying; even if she's angry and frustrated. In what I've dealt with; I get angry and then am able to calmly talk about what I need to see....

she's not so much angry. I'd say more concerned and wants a long life together. She is having her own health issues and wants to make sure I'm treating myself well