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why would a therapist say this?

enoughisenough2
enoughisenough2
My therapist once suggested that my husband agree to only limit
himself to 2 drinks a night!! Isn't that in itself enabling ? Our therapist does not label him an alcoholic but that drinking has caused trouble in the marriage. Time for a new therapist
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
Two drinks should not be an issue, IF that is all the person has. It also depends upon what's been going on up to now. Can't say that's enabling, but I also don't know why he can't cut down even more- 2 drinks every night adds up...
deleted_user
deleted_user
If the therapist has met with him and has reason to believe he is just a problem drinker, then the suggestion is valid. If the therapist has only third party information to go on, they would have no way to make a valid judgment call one way or the other. The limiting of number of drinks in a way is a test. Will you tell him? Will he do it? Those two answers would provide information that helps build the picture of the problem. Not enabling...

Hugs,
Dennis
Zachary18
Zachary18
The problem is that most people misunderstand how little one drink really is. It's 1 - 12oz beer, 5 oz wine, and 1 1/2 oz (one standard shot) 80 proof alcohol. The standard medical line of thought is alcohol abuse for a male is consuming more than 4 drinks in one sitting and a total of 14 drinks per week.
deleted_user
deleted_user
HI enoughise...Sounds like your therapist was seeing if your hubby could adhere to the 2 drink limit?
stickywick
stickywick
No idea. Its hard to tell without the entire back story.
Its your *husbands* therapist. Maybe it time to but out of *his* therapy.
Just a thought.
1is2many
1is2many
Only an alcoholic can say / label ones self an alcoholic.
C
Impermanence
Impermanence
It could be a test to see if he could limit himself to 2 drinks a day. I know that I would fail the test.
Gr8ful
Gr8ful
Counselor once told me to put the cork back in the bottle to which I replied why would I get the cork out of the bin.

He could not understand why I would put the cork in the bin I couldn't understand why I wouldn't.

G8
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
I had the same experience Gr8ful when I was 26 thank goodness I was able to retain the info and get sober 2 years later. SaY Whattttttttttttt:))
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i7RbZNT5A2A
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Oh and my significant other did everything she could to keep me comfortable along with my resistant I had to begin to understand where had really ended up at without being fed sugar!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHo43B6nu60


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qrriKcwvlY Ha!!
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