Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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kluvswt 03/11/2008

Why oh why won't these cravings go away? I do not want a beer, I do not want to be drunk, i do not want to be useless i do not want to be hungover and shameful in the morning. but here i sit at work and the thought popped into my head how nice it will be when i get home and drink a few to relax.. and then the craving, u know the one that is inside u, like starts and ur throat and goes down into ur belly.. the desire to drink "just a few"
why does it have to be a daily struggle?

Loved1 03/11/2008

In the big book of AA it talks about the phenomenon of craving, obsession of the mind and allergy of the body.
I think once we get sober the cravings nearly disappear for most of us. (Or when we have a spiritual experience that is a defining moment in our desire to quit drinking.)
You are not alone! You are in the right place!!

deleted_user 03/11/2008

I agree with Loved1, you DEFINITELY are not alone! I was the same way, and it seems to be a virtually universal feeling and experience among alcoholics.

I, for one, could not get sober alone, either. I needed AA to teach me and help me find the willingness to let God give me sobriety.

For me, it ceased to be a daily struggle -- sobriety has become a daily gift I am grateful to receive from God. :)

deleted_user 03/11/2008

i don't know if you go to meetings or not but, for me, i found relief in sharing my experience like your experience with others who felt and feel exactly the same way. hope is in the room when i take my seat in alcoholics anonymous. when i see one struggling, sick alcoholic going through detox whispering words of encouragement to another alcoholic who is but just a few hours less sober than him; i know i have witnessed grace made visible. you need not be alone. we are here- legions of us waiting just for you... devon

deleted_user 03/11/2008

I feel cravings more than I want to. I thing about the wrong I have done and still have the cravings. I try and think about the damage I have done and the poor outcome of that, and talk to friends of AA and keep it simple, one day at a time, or even one moment at a time. Hang in, people are there for you.

deleted_user 03/11/2008

I really think that the big thing that changed for me was coming completely clean with my partner about my problem. He really did not know the full picture cos like a lot of problem drinkers I was a bit devious and sly about how much I was drinking.

Going to AA has made my problem more 'real' or 'out there' and has really confronted me with the fact I need to change my behaviour. It also has given me a focus - reading the literature, about the steps, talking to other people about my problem (unbelievable for me!) etc. I am prepared to stay sober and get through the program before I even think about where I am at with my drinking and whether I can drink again unproblematically.

I'm interested in why AA works for some people so I trying to keep an open mind and not just baulk at some of the lingo. At the end of the day - for now - it is keeping me sober and I'm really happy about that :-)

deleted_user 03/11/2008

i know exactly what you mean. i lie to myself and say ok i will only have a few, when i know full well when i start i cant stop

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