Welcome to the group and thankyou for coming here today!

Why do you feel like you need to drink?.......Usually, alcoholism is a symptom of deeper emotional issues. So, if you love this person and you love being with him but he has made your drinking a condition of your relationship but you are unwilling to stop then why stay with him?

I don't usually ask so many question but am just trying to understand your post a little better. One of the first signs of a drinking problem is when it begins to interfere in our relationship with those around us.

God Bless

Hi Mary. Right off the: ‘he won’t LET me drink’ comes across as controlling. If this is who he is then are there other controlling behaviors? Did he struggle with alcohol in the past and just can’t be around it or someone who drinks?
Have you given him reasons to worry about your alcohol dependency where he thinks that he’s‘helping’ you?
Like bob, I have more questions...... let us know how you feel about your relationship with alcohol.
I have my own definitions for sobriety. For me, being sober is not drinking ALONG with the knowledge that alcohol doesn’t work for me and an intentional desire to change those old patterns. So your two months I would call abstinence, because you weren’t drinking but wanted to and didn’t see it as an issue. I think that’s what you’re saying..... if you were sneaking drinks during that time than it’s not two months sober. That would be zero drinks over two months.
Sounds like you have some communication with your fiancé to open up. For me, when I admitted that I had a drinking problem, I opened the communication with myself about what my dependency was doing to my life. It was a hard thing to look at in the beginning of my abstinence but the desire for change grew into a sober lifestyle. Now I can’t imagine going back to it.
I hope you can be honest with yourself about what is best for you. You are the only one who can choose your lifestyle.

Sneaking is what alcoholics are BEST at

bobinmaine- I stay with him bc I have no were to go.

I am not one to offer advice. I have my own issues I am dealing with. But if you are sneaking drinks, there is a problem. No matter if its a alcohol problem for you or a problem from him being controlling, either way you need to look at it

I think you might want to ask yourself why a person you are supporting has created a rule in your own house that prohibits you from using alcohol? Instead of asking why they have done that you to you, maybe you might want to ask why they feel the need to do it for you?

Through my experience, everyone who has prohibited me from drinking, in hindsight was actually saving my life and insuring my future would be the most awesome possible. At the time it felt like it was the most cruel response in the world, but when I accepted it, I saw that it was actually the most loving thing anyone who cared about me could have ever done considering how damaging of a business practicing drinking is to an alcoholic that needs freedom from alcohol to be their only option for genuine happiness and understanding.

This person sounds like an honest friend who actually thinks about you more than themselves, which is not common in today's world. You should appreciate their care and concern and realize you've been given a gift by their decision and thoughtfulness for you.

Maybe the two of you free from alcohol and all the drama free realities that will become of that is the real happiness you've been seeking while looking for it in a bottle before?

I did see that you said you sneak here and there, but you lead with telling us you had been sober for 2 months?

It's just confusing. Do you have a problem with booze or not or is it just a case that he is very anti booze ??