Sounds like Alanon would help!

Aye, AlAnon is the ticket...

Hugs,
Dennis

Well, sounds like Alanon and ACA are places to start. I don't see one or two beers as an alcoholic issue, but you are certainly surrounded by alcoholism. I have no experience in either fellowship, but I wish you the very best and you're taking a step in the right direction :)

Hi,

That is where I will start.

Thanks so much for the feedback.

Do I post on this support group?

Kathy

Alanon or acoa would be better

I am an acoa myself. Having alcoholic parents affected every major decision I made in my life, in a negative way. I am still working on myself.

Good Luck!

Onya Katy, sounds like you're willing to check out some things that might give you some self awareness. There's a few sub-groups here which may be an added support below.

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/wives-of-alcoholics
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/al-anon-one-day-at-a-time
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/adultchildrenofalcoholics

Hi,

Thanks so much for the support and info. I found an ALanon meeting in the area on Monday night. Plan on attending. From what I have read on the internet, ALanon is certainly the place to go. Will keep you posted.

Kathy

Hi katy,

I found ACA to be tremendously helpful. If you also go to al Anon meetings - please find a coed one - they are usually at night. I found those al Anon meetings to be much more helpful than the meetings during the day, which are usually attended by women only.

I have nothing against women's meetings but somehow the coed meetings seemed to deal with issues more realistic.

Well, last night I had planned on attending an Alanon meeting. Come home from work and change my mind. For some reason, I am having such trouble taking the next step and go to a meeting. This is so not like me. I used to be the "get up and go getter." Now, I make excuses and not follow through. I got up this morning and checked for a meeting today. There is an ACA meeting tonight. I need to make that first step and go. This is the pattern. I wonder if I am afraid to go because of the ramifications it will cause from my husband, the alcoholic?

Hello katy2012,

It is natural to be unsure and afraid of taking such a step and that is probably what is holding you back. Just remember that where active alcoholism is concerned it will get worse over time, never better. What may look like a difficult choice right now will probably prove to be the easy option in the long term.

Hi,
Did an online Alanon meeting last night. Not sure I understood what was going on. I definitely need to go to a f2f meeting. Reading has really helped. Knowledge is priceless!!!

Hi,

Yes - knowledge is useful. I found something else is useful too, an impact and real change within the heart. Face to face contact with those in the know really has been priceless for me on that front.

Good luck

P

Thanks so much. I am planning on attending an Alanon meeting on Monday evening and/or going to an ACA meeting on Tuesday. Maybe, I will attend both. Think the Steps are similar. Hopefully, I can figure it out by attending both.

Thanks again. Have a great day.

Kathy

Katy -
The steps are identical as those of AA. I believe what changed your mind was the same thing that hindered many of us from going through the doors. Fear of something very new and strange. Fear of exposing ourselves to strangers. Fear of playing the fool.
Conquering that initial fear will be your first step in a life you will be amazed at...

Hugs,
Dennis

Yes, you do. More for the change in lifestyle if not for any other reason plus it will explain to you why you feel as you do. Stick with it for the understanding of why is most important.