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getnbedr 02/23/2008

i feel depressed. i am tired of trying so hard, and getting nowhere. My house was burglarized AGAIN Thursday afternoon. for the 2nd time. The cops say it doesnt matter what you do, because if the burglar wants in, he'll get in. I hate where i live because i am in a bad neighborhood, but i feel trapped because of the terrible housing market. My ebay bussiness totally flopped this christmas so i have to get a home equity loan to pay off the $80,000 of debts. My house is now a storage wherehouse for all this shit i cant sell, and everything is a mess. My kitchen has a dead rat/mouse behind the counter, but i cant get to it, unless i take all my cabinets out, which is 2 days of work. My friend says the smell wil go away, but its been 3 weeks and it still wreaks. I am the heaviest i have ever been in my life at 210lbs, and cant stop eating. i want to be in a relationship, but have not been able to find anyone. I will be 40 years old next year and i have never been in a relationship in my life. i have two friends that are wrapped up in there own problems and dont seem to care, even when i ask them for help. I am in the process of leaving my job of 6 1/2 years, and starting a new one, which is scary. And my father is coming to visit me next week, which i really dont want, but feel obligated to do. i have ebay sales to mail out, and bills to pay, but i am too depressed to do anything. i feel so overwhelmed and depressed I want to go to sleep and hibernate, and not wake up. Its been a long time since i have felt this depressed. I am tired of fighting.

deleted_user 02/23/2008

The point is this is life and you are alive to live it. So you have some work to do to make your life better - you can do it. I'd start by getting rid of the rat!! :)
I know depression makes the simplest task overwhelming - Can you accomplish one little bit at a time?
I'm sorry you have been burglarized - a personal violation.

deleted_user 02/23/2008

I think if your heart is beating and your mind is sober you will be ok.

As for the rat,he will be ok,no more worry for him.

It is possible to not worry before we end up like the rat.

I would have to stay sober to succeed.

Stay positive,think of only good things that happened today.Make good things happen today, may help.Try not to feed of negativity it is unproductive to the max.

I hope the stolen items are used for good and not drugs or alcohol.

mj

deleted_user 02/23/2008

some days it seems that no matter how hard we try sh*& keeps landing right in your lap. through no fault of your own these unpleasant thing do uccur and nothing you coulda or shoulda or woulda might have changes the outcome.
no point in letting these things get you down. if it goes on too long,we call this depression "budding" or building up to drinking. in other words poor me, poor me, poor me, pour me another drink!
you stillhave your house? your yes?, your health? your arms and legs? were you diagnosed with cancer? are you still sober? thank god you are alive!

deleted_user 02/23/2008

First sorry about all that is going on in your life.But you really must remember that you are worth alot more.You must have some smarts about your self to be running a bussines... and its not just you thats things got bad.Alot of people lost on bussiness profits these past yrs...Your making a big decision about a job change after 6 1/2 yrs.And at least you have money built up in your home to pay off your debts, where as alot of people have lost their homes and now on the street.I know that you are feeling over whelmed and things are maybe getting out of hand in your mind but really you have alot to be greatful for......except for the mouse.And they sell these trash picker upper with prongs on the end to get rid of the mouse..Just be good to your self ,you are worth it. Good luck.

deleted_user 02/23/2008

All I can tell you is what helped me, the 12 steps of alcoholic's annonymous.

deleted_user 02/23/2008

Tired of fighting? Surrender! I frickin gave up, and it was like a 1000 lb boulder was lifted off my back. I was fighting fighting fighting everything and everybody and would drink at all of you. One day something clicked in my head and I said "ok, enough, I am done, take me or do with me what you will God I have had it"....and that was the last day I drank. I still have tons of problems and still at times feel the fight brewing again inside me, but then I say a prayer and give up, and somehow feel better.

btw, I had a dead mouse in my kitchen, could not find it, smell goes away in a month-amazing the fumes that little buggar gave off!

deleted_user 02/23/2008

...the point is we are willing to grow along spiritual lines.

deleted_user 02/23/2008

i feel for you. i really do. i'm also at a low point

deleted_user 02/23/2008

You are alive and sober by the grace of God and this you can be thankful for. Sorry about the rest but you have shelter that is one thing to be thankful for, you also have us here and that is another thing to be thankful for. I will pray for you. god bless you.

deleted_user 02/24/2008

dont give up and dont let things get you to the point i was at in january when i got so drunk i tried to end it god had more for me to do so i failed the higher power always wins if you let him

deleted_user 02/24/2008

That sucks about your house getting burglarized. I know how it feels to fail in a business and lose a lot of money. That, in itself, can be very depressing. Have you thought about individual therapy? I've been in and out through the years. It really helps me out through the tough times.

deleted_user 02/24/2008

I'm very sorry to hear about all the things that are going on in your life at the moment!

When you read waht you've said, it just continues and continues...is there anything in there to be greatful and happy for? I'm sure you can find some:)

Depression is such an overwhelming weight...I completely understand...it takes so much to muster up the enegry to accomplish anything sometimes...but just do something positive for yourself. Start with something you enjoy and then pick a small task and accomplish it. For me I find that those overwhelming things actually arent quite as monumental as I anticipated in my head originally...

this feeling of overwhelming ness is so much but little baby tasks and steps is the best start...it really makes you feel good slowly but surely!

all the best:)

deleted_user 02/24/2008

Don't give up! Somtimes it doesn't seem like there is point, but there will be. If yuo need to talk, I'm here. Debtis a horrible thing. We have dead mouce in our house under the floor. Mum's going crazy. But there is nothing we can do so we have to sit it out (plus feel sorry for the poor little mouce) :)I hope everything gets better for you cx x x x

deleted_user 02/24/2008

First of all, you need to go ahead and get those cabinets pulled out and get rid of the stink. I would that psychologically during a hard time such as this, that the rotten stink of flesh has got to take its toll. Then when find it and throw it out, then maybe you can think more clearly on what needs to be done next.

Hope this helps

deleted_user 02/24/2008

you know, I have read this post again and wholeheartedly agree with daisy. I am commanding you to clean up your kitchen an get that mouse out of there! WHen I feel nuts, the worst thing in the world is to have my house look chaotic as I feel inside. CLean, clean clean, you will feel better and not have all that energy to worry about things

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