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Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988

So, it's been fourteen days sober. I've been tempted a couple times due to my mom drinking, but today was the worst. I'm sick, my mom is drinking and I was just asked if I was going to the bar with "everyone" tonight. On the bright side, I told her I quit drinking and she was happy because she never drinks. She invited me over to play dominos and hang out but I'm too sick to go. I just feel happy that I am able to meet great people that are okay with being sober. It makes me feel stronger and more hopeful about my sobriety.


On a different note, have any of you realized that once you quit drinking you see alcohol all around you? Like, on TV/movies, commercials, ads, etc? I feel like since I've decided to quit the temptation is everywhere. Maybe it's been there all along and now I'm starting to realize it?


I've been dreaming a lot lately about being in places where there is alcohol. The amazing thing is that in every dream I'm walking out of the situation or saying no. That makes me feel really good. 


I cant wait until I'm one month sober. I feel like it's going to come before I know it. 


-C

1is2many
1is2many
Yup.. I noticed it everywhere. So that is normal. I pray for you to keep it going. I must admit it was not possible for me to stay sober if I didn't have a support network and more importantly work on the reason why I drank so hard. I basically felt like I was inferior and booze was the only thing that made me feel whole / a part of. But when I would quit drinking the whole coping bit was gone. It was like I missed that day in school. I just couldn't cope. I found help from a group of others that showed me how to deal with life. Because for me booze wasn't the problem, it was my solution to the problem. Keep it going and you will get the 30 days and life gets better
1ismany
Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
Thank you! Honestly, I'm grateful for the few people in my life that have my back because their support definitely keeps me going. I definitely have problems in my life that are a direct cause of my drinking and thats something I'm addressing in therapy. The longest I've ever been sober is three months. I want to change my life but I realize I have to change my thinking first. I'm so used to drinking so I have to completely change the way I live my life. I know this is going to such a hard journey. But every time I think of drinking I think of why I wanted to stop in the first place and that kind of helps.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Thankyou for sharing! You have angels directing your dreams. I am sure of that. That's why you keep walking out of each situation saying no.

Remember, you are still in the early stages. It took you awhile to become an alcoholic to the degree that you are, and it will take awhile for your brain to heal. I remember they use to tell me in AA, not to make any major decisions for at least a year, but after about 8 months, I had changed my focus to other things that gave me far healthier pleasures and alcohol was no longer possessing the majority of my thoughts.

If I could give a suggestion, it would be to keep hanging around sober people and try to emulate them. That will eliminate a trigger.

Keep up the good work! You are doing great! Years from now, you will be an inspiration for others to follow!

God Bless
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
It's funny. Once I sobered up, I didn't suddenly notice the amount of references to alcohol in our society. I did however notice references to AA in movies, TV, etc.
PJ54
PJ54
Hello Moondreamer1988,

I have to admit that I didn’t want to stop drinking and would not mind if I was sitting with a glass of my favourite brew right now. However, I have completely accepted that I cannot drink safely and although I would still like to have a drink an odd time, I can honestly say that I don’t miss it at all. Drinking is something that I rarely think about as it is no longer important.

There is alcohol in the house at times and I sometimes even buy bottles in the supermarket for other people, and my wife has a glass or two some evenings, but it doesn’t bother me in the least. That is because I accept that I cannot drink and I have closed that chapter of my life. More importantly, I have opened new and exciting chapters that do not include alcohol.

What I would encourage you to do is to fully accept that you cannot drink, and then move on to new things. If you can do that, the whole world could be drinking around you and it wouldn’t bother you in the least.
Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
Thank you everyone! I know the first month is going to be the hardest. My friends actually went out last night to the bar but didn't invite me, and to be completely honest I was really happy that they did that. That shows that they are taking my sobriety seriously. The only reason I found out that they were out was because a girl I met recently asked me if I was going. She usually doesn't drink. I explained that I quit drinking and we actually made plans to get together. It made me happy because I realized that I can still go out and have fun without alcohol. Then her friend invited me to a birthday dinner next month. Things are looking up. You guys are right, there is life after quitting!! I can't wait to continue this journey to sobriety!!
Kevin105
Kevin105
So happy for your strength and resolve! Also glad to hear that you're starting to see a new life start to unfold before you. It takes time, and sometimes patience, but you will indeed begin to see more and more subtle changes as you continue in your walk of liberation from alcohol. Wishing you continued success!
msmermaid
msmermaid
Yes there is life without alcohol. I do remember how you are feeling though. Absolutely saw drinking everywhere when I stopped. That gets easier as time goes on too. Congrats and keep it up
Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
Thank you both!! It's definitely been an eye opening experience. I mean, I've been sober before for more than two weeks but I had no intention of quitting. Now that I am facing my demons it's almost like I'm finally aware of how many damage alcohol has caused my life and quite honestly nothing good has ever come from drinking. I'm ready to put that all behind me and move towards a healthier and happier life.
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
I enjoy having coffee with friends or going to the gym with them, far more productive than sitting at a loud bar, pretending to be connected with people, while I was drinking my life away.

Your progress sounds tremendous. Keep it up and keep posting.
judgefitness
judgefitness
It takes time to become comfortable around drink as a sober alcoholic - some NEVER become comfortable and would rather avoid social events where alcohol is present at all cost. I’m ok with parties at my home where my guests drink because I’m in charge and busy myself as host, I have a great coffee machine which is stocked up ready beforehand!! I do however avoid nights in the pub/club and usually offer to babysit instead.
Nowadays if I’m arranging a night with the girls it’s usually a meal and sometimes onto the cinema to watch a film and they are the best kind of nights - we actually converse!!
Stay strong, stay focused but most importantly stay true to yourself xx
Moondreamer1988
Moondreamer1988
Thank you guys!! I know it's too early to be in social situations where there will be booze so I am staying far away, and I will especially stay away from any bars. I saw a substance abuse counselor today and it went really well. She is impressed with everything I've accomplished in such a short amount of time. I had to give credit to my amazing support system and you guys!! I told her about this site and she was unaware of it but really happy that there is something like this for people to vent, so that made me happy. I'm starting to think about the many sober things I can do and I no longer feel like I need to drink to socialize or have fun. In a weird way I feel like this is too good to be true? I'm terrified to relapse, but I know that is a possibility at any time so I am trying to prepare myself in case I'm put in that situation.
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