Hello and welcome.
According to U, you drinks 5-9 drinks a night for the past 3-4 years and your husband does not think it's a big deal? ...'ok'...
That amount of alcohol takes a big toll on your mind and body, especially your liver.
Today is the start to a new life. Keep letting everyone here know how your doing, we are all here to help each other...
This site is very helpful IMO...

Hello floridabeachgirl,

You are very welcome to the forum and I wish you well on your journey to sobriety.

I will hope for you to find good sober times.

Best!

1is2many

Thank you all so much! Today is day 2. I woke up this morning and feel so good, not one drink last night!!!!!! wow, even though I keep crying I think its just because ive had this breakthrough. my goal is 30 days. I feel so invigorated and free!!!!!! why did it take me so long to do this. it does not have a hold on my life anymore. it is not going to control me. going down for a walk on the beach, which is definitely healing:)

Hello floridabeachgirl,

Well done on day two. Drinking can result in a lot of buried emotions and you are probably letting those feelings out now through crying which can be a therapeutic thing to do.

Just be careful about setting a 30 day goal for a couple of reasons. The first one is that when you get to thirty days you may feel like celebrating your achievement with a drink. The other reason is that if for some reason you dont make the thirty days you may feel that you have failed. Many people set a goal of not drinking today and that can make it a lot easier. The days soon add up and before you realize it you will be well past your 30 days.

thank you all so much. im staying close to home and plan to not go out to dinner for a few weeks. we used to go out like 4 nights a week and of course lots of drinks, so im going to keep myself safe from any situation like that.
I was reluctant to give myself a 30 day goal. i think i'll just do one day at a time and then week by week. I feel like i don't have a secret to hide anymore. it really feels so good, its unbelievable. im so happy, yet really really so scared. i feel like im gonna be out somewhere and have an anxiety attack. yesterday was easier than today but im not giving up! I will do this!

When I was first drying out, I was an emotional mess. I would cry watching a commercial ,and I'm a 6'2" Harley riding bad a**. (Well I think anyway) . Alcohol can do a real number on your mind and your emotions. Keep going , The emotional part will work its way out of your system as time goes on. I 'm the same with the AA thing. As for goals , I don't count days or anything else. I just remind myself that sober is a better world, and that's where I want to be. Your at the beginning of a journey, that with each passing day will make you feel stronger , both physically, and emotionally .Good job quitting. This is a great sight for support BTW
keep up the good work.

Focusing on one day at a time has really helped me. I was freaking myself out thinking weeks and months ahead. It really does get a lot easier. I'm only at 15 days, but to me, that's a lot and a job well done. Give yourself a pat on the back for two days! Self love is a powerful tool!

For me, I try to stay in the present and not focus on past problems or try and figure out what the future holds. This way of thinking just brings remorse and anxiety. For me to stay sober I try and feel how good it is in the morning, to not have to wake up and feel miserable, and each night going to bed sober is truly a miracle to cherish. Way to go on day two, keep it up.

This is a big and courageous step. It's also one of th most rewarding and best decisions you will ever make in your life, hands down. Part of my success has been to let go of what others think and fin people who can understand on a personal level what this decision means for you. They will furnish you with invaluable insight and support. Stay the course--it will get rocky but it DOES mellow out if you stay in the fight long enough!!!! And the rewards just don't stop. That's no bull. It's the honest to God truth. I didn't stop until drinking hijacked my life and no drinking was never a happy and blissful experience again. Now I rejoice in the gift that keeps on giving. Living sober is really a very spiritual and holy experience and that IS a huge deal to get a new lease on life.

Congratulations and welcome. You can do this!!!

awww I love you all!!!!! today is day 3!!!!!!! I just cant believe how good it feels when I wake up in the morning! no headache and I feel so refreshed I even sleep better. I used to wake up every night at 3-4am, i guess after the drunk wore off, to have a huge glass of water, and then couldn't get back to sleep for like 2 hours. but these last 2 nights, ive slept through the night for the first time in 4 years! i feel amazing. thank you all for all the great advice i love coming on here and reading all of your comments carefully, and taking everything you all say very seriously because i know you've all been there and it feels so good to have your help and support. Here we go.... night #3 and i wont be drinking.

Going on it alone has the same success rate as AA so don't worry about the odds. Many of us here, like myself, did it without AA. It just matters what is the best fit for you. However, I read their posts and pick up some good stuff like "one day at a time" and "Live and let live"
and ignore the rest. Since my religion, Buddhism, doesn't have a god,I ignore the god stuff.

You have the power to stop. Call Up the power in you and use it.