Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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confusedmoma 01/04/2009

Hello all, its been a while but i need some advice and support. I'm slowly adapting to living life sober. I've stayed sober over a year now through prayer and meetings, and now i'm trying to change my unhealhty behaviors but it is so hard! I no longer want to be that shy, quiet and passive girl who can't speak her mind. But i have absolutely no social skills! I always end up saying things i wish i wouldn't, or acting against my beliefs. What are some ways i can break out of this shell and enjoy life's situations and people?

deleted_user 01/04/2009

You silly girl, you just did! You've over a year sobriety? That's fantastic! Are you going to meetings? Are you hanging out for the meetings after the meeting? Are you making new friends? AA is the perfect place for that. AA'ers understand. You can also check out Celebrate Recovery, you can google them and see if they have meetings in your area. Get out and meet people, make new friends, you'll come around in no time, don't isolate.
Brian

deleted_user 01/04/2009

Sounds like maybe you need a confidence boost? Put yourself in some situation where you know you can succeed. Where you know your good qualities will shine.

Maybe do some volunteer work for a cause close to your heart? Maybe take some adult education classes or go for a (advanced?)college degree?

Take it slow and let each little success build upon one another.

deleted_user 01/04/2009

You really just did it! :) Over a year is so great and you should be proud. Shout it from the rooftops, find your voice. Your fingers managed to type it, just learn to let your heart and voice sing it out. Doesn't sound like you're lacking social skills, you sound very strong to me. :) Let it out and good for you! :) Like the old Nike adds said "Just do it".

deleted_user 01/06/2009

Congrats on your sobriety! You DO have social skills. You just don't believe that you have them. Ya know, when we have polluted ourselves for so long, we didn't know who the hell were. It takes time to adjust to life and figure out who we really are and what we really want for ourselves and what true happiness for us really is. If you recognize behaviors you don't like about yourself, you can work on improving them and you are doing that now. You might be afraid to be open, social and allow that silly, funny side of you come out. No need to be sweetheart. No one is any better that you are. Your opinion and thoughts matter jut as much as anyone elses. Free yourself from self doubt. Love & prayers

CoogeeMum 01/06/2009

Your doing great conf moma. Congrats on your first year sober. What I did was start something I always wanted to do, and through that, I found myself with new friends and new social situation where I felt comfortable. It was just taking that first step to join. What's something that you've always wanted to do? It could be exercise, sport or hobby.
Don't be so hard on yourself, your doing fantastic. CM xxx

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