When you sober up and read this I hope you might consider going to a meeting for help and support. " Don't have nothing to offer anybody" maybe just work on self for awhile.

You might think you are but your not alone in this deal.

If you've been drinking, then none of this will make that much sense to you anyway, but the idea of dropping out of a program that is supposed to help you is kind of crazy, isn't it? Trust me, those AA folks have seen or lived much worse than you can offer them. They are there with a helping hand - all you have to do is show up and take it. I don't care if you're still hungover from the previous day........of all groups, THEY would understand more than anyone else.

"Trying Harder" never works. Giving up and surrendering to the fact that you have this thing and cannot cure it on your own......THAT is the beginning of a path to recovery. Go Sleep!

Please remember that when you go to AA you not only help yourself, you help the others that are there.

Working on yourself for a while hasn't worked so far, and it isn't important to AA that you stack 30 days before joining up. They want you now.

Go to meetings, get a sponsor, and as an old timer said to me"sit, down, shut up, and listen".

Well, I believe in sharing when and if you need to, but the advice is essentially right.

Give it a chance, keep coming back, it works!

Hi Howtolive,

I needed rehab. Alot of us can and do benefit from it, and without it can't quit on our own. I knew i needed to be brainwashed against alcohol for myself. My willpower was gone. That is fine, there is nothing wrong that i needed help. It is not fair to beat yourself up just because you cannot quit on your own. That's the stronghold alcoholism has on you. It will get worse, not better. Do what you need to do to get better. There should be some kind of government help where you are. I don't know about where you live, but i am sure people there want to help you. You are sick and need help and guidance. I needed to be in a safe place where alcohol wasn't around. I HAD to stay away from it completely for a while. I did not even go to a restaurant that served it for a while. It had THAT strong of a hold on me. SOUND FAMILAR? Can you go in somewhere for help?

Kinda struck home at the meeting last night. Connie is happy joyous and super free and came into the program 14 years ago with Marsha. Connie celebrated 14 years Friday night.
Marsha died last Thursday.
I know you are from the Indy area, did you hear about it?????.

If AA isn't working, then find something else for right now. Why not inpatient rehab?

Do you think that if you can't do it with AA you will be able to do it on your own???

i too thought the same thing and didnt think i had anything to offer anyone but i do and so do u...dont ever give up and keep on trying.. i have relapsed many times and i got sick of walking in meetings and had to accept i relapsed again but one thing i never did was walk away from aa .. i kept coming back...

the want has to be more then the need and i know you want this.. dont give up...

me;

Not a good idea. Walking out five minutes before the miracle happens is a tad bit on the foolish side. Go to the meetings, sit and listen. Try to give the fellowship at least an equal amount of time and diligence you do for your disease.
Hugs,
Dennis

I'm not gonna throw any slogans at ya Olive. But what the hell do you mean you're dropping out of aa because you have nothing to offer? What a retarded excuse..er..um...statement!

What the hell do you think you're supposed to offer at this moment? YOU need help, YOU need encouragement, YOU need support.

And ya know what? You do have something to offer. YOU will help THEM by giving them the opportunity to help YOU. Get it?

Have you even been going to meetings? Have you made any friends?

I guess you're right about not having the willingness, I hope you find it before it's too late.

I know what you're doing see, you've posted on the no steps board asking how long people have been sober without aa and what other methods are out there and blah blah blah...which is absolutely fine, please explore all options.

But any program you choose you will have to commit to 100% and you said you're self that you're not willing to commit. You're searching desperately for the program that's gonna say it's okay for you to keep drinking while in recovery. :)

Until you find that willingness, enjoy your misery.....

Love you

Trying to quit on your own obviously hasn't worked or you wouldn't have joined AA. If that isn't working either I strongly suggest inpatient rehab.

I've been there myself, trust me you only need just a little bit of willingness and an open mind to make it happen. anybody can get sober so don't listen to the disease that says you can't, the disease told me for many years I couldn't do it, but here I am over 3 yrs of sobriety. I have liver disease cause of that life style, you don't want that for yourself, believe me. Sometimes just sharing this type of pain you actually help ppl whether you know it or not, I don't think you are thinking clearly enough right now, so I pray nothing happens to you until you decide you want sobriety.

hOLYCRAP SAID IT SO i NEED NOT SAY A WORD.

huh, funny, TORI said the same silly shit to me about a month ago .
She's tried to kill herself twice, that I know of. Totalled her car & did a number on her passenger. Lost her apartment. Let her dog out to pee, passed out & he's dead-got ran over. Lost her very part time job at Steak N Shake for stealing scripts outta co-workers purses......& turnin' herself out for dope & booze.
She didn't think she had anything to offer either. Always know when a newcommer says "I've been thinking......" it will turn into a major cluster f*$k.
I'll pray for ya girl. I hope your mind clears & you see the light.
Love ya, Billie

Friend,
I have ADD,social anxiety disorder,depression and alcoholism and a sex addiction.A friend of mine committed suicide 2 weeks ago.I still
have hope that i will survive this.And i WILL...Keep trying and never give up.
Better days ahead,
"M"

Get your ASS to rehab NOW!!!!!

Personally, I am tired of it. If you were my sister I'd have an Intervention. You better go before I get to you!!!! With love of course...

But truly Anna, it's getting old. YOU HAVE to go get more help than what we can give you here. Period. Then once you are more stabilized you will be able to help others and let others help you. Till then this is a dead end for you. Your dead end.

This may not sound funny to you but I was actually thinking about you needing to join the "Multiple Personality" support group. That is how weird you get when you are drinking compared to when you are not.

Please go get an intake for inhouse rehab first thing in the am. Please for you. luv, alice