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staying sober,when everyone around you drinks

latrisha001
latrisha001
I want to quit drinking, I've tried before and was good for about 2 weeks. Problem is most if not all of my friends drink, my mother drinks my brother drinks, the guy I'm dating drinks. at all of our family gatherings cook outs thanksgiving, Christmas, baby showers birthdays (even the ones for the kids) everyone is drinking and having a good time. that has been all I have know for years its to the point that I don't know if I can have fun sober.Then when I get sober How can I stay that way? I cant avoid these people because they are family and important in my life. I really want to be sober I'm sick of the hangovers the lethargy not being able to get the things I need done. I'm tiered of wasting money on liquor then getting drunk and spending even more money (that I shouldn't be) on the stupidest of things. I have been a poor example to my kids for far to long. I just need to know how to stay sober , to strengthen my will power, to fight the urge, because it gets quite strong even though you know the negative out come. I am just tired
radicrog
radicrog
I think you're in the right place to find support online. I'd recommend finding an AA group near you. There are some that cater to women only if you're uncomfortable being in a group with men you don't know.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good morning Latrisha. I certainly can relate to your dilemma. However, I realized over time that it's really just another excuse to keep drinking. The truth is that you probably won't quit until you change your social scene.....at least temporarily. Sobriety should be worth it though b/c you'll be a better mom, friend, daughter and girlfriend. I wouldn't be surprised it you inspired some/all of your circle to take a shot at sobriety as well. Surrender to the disease (you can't beat it) and turn everything over to something bigger than you.
latrisha001
latrisha001
Thank you both for responding radicrog , I will look into some support groups and bcarey34 I believe you are right,and I like the idea of being a better mom and possibly inspiring some of my friends to become sober as well. I know I have a long road to travel but it will be worth it in the end. I have given it to God now I will take it one day at a time
stickywick
stickywick
Welcome.
I got sober while my family drank and still does. Two weeks after my first AA meeting I went on a bday weekend with my best girlfriends --- who are all big drinkers. I didnt drink. In hindsight I know that was a small miracle in my life. It was also made possible through Alcoholic Anonymous -- the support and the program I began to lean on even early on.
I too didnt think I could have "fun" sober but I knew I was miserable as a drunk. The reality of that was one of the things that kept me sober.
You can do it. Get a plan, build a support system. It can't be your family nor should your sobriety be contingent on anyone or anything else.
latrisha001
latrisha001
Thank you stickywick, It helps to know that you can relate to my situation and that you made it through, it really gives me hope. I am going to develop a plan, the support system may be a little challenging but I know not impossible. My motivation is myself and my kids because I know they deserve so much better and I plan on giving it to them
PJ54
PJ54
Hello latrisha001,

There is not a lot that I can add to the good advice that you have been given already, except for one thing: I tried my damnedest to stop drinking and couldnt do it. When all hope was lost I went to an AA meeting and have not had a drink since that day.