It has to be hard in a college atmosphere. I feel this way sometimes and I am 40 now. I sincerely asked my husband if I was boring to hang around with now. I felt much better when he said absolutely not. I don't tell anyone they can't drink when I go to a party. I am learning that having fun and getting drunk are not the same thing. Do not listen to the people that tell you that you can drink. If you are a true alcoholic you just have to know you can't.

Hello VictoriaBlack,

Confucius, him say: "The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large."

It all depends on how you view things. You can start each day with negative thoughts and dwell upon the things that you cannot do or you can take the opposite course of action. This can be a time of misery and despair or it can be the best time of your life and the good news is that the choice is yours.

You are no doubt learning important stuff at college and it is a great opportunity. However, no school or college that I know of teaches the most important subject of all - how to live life. You can however get that course for free by going to AA a couple of times per week, getting a good sponsor and embarking upon that amazing journey that is the Twelve Steps.

Are you going to dwell on the “poor me” or are you going to grasp a great opportunity?

You associate alcohol with "having fun" because that is what you are use to! Old habits are hard to break, aren't they?

I use to work for a company that had a ceo who everyone loved. He would rent a local hall at Christmas, hire a local band, and throw us a big party. He would go crazy at that party, getting up on a table and dancing with all the guy's wives, of course he had to slip them a twenty to get them to dance but we all loved taking the owner's money! The thing is, he was completely sober when he got crazy like this. He never drank a drop of alcohol and would brag about that to all the guys who got smashed! Ne was so proud of his sobriety and a great example for all of us!

My point is, you can have just as much fun, sober, as you can drunk with the added benefit of feeling better the following day. The choice is yours and I really believe, that with a little practice, you will learn how to have a better time, being sober, but it takes time and you have to focus on the positive and look for the good in everything, and if you're really having a hard time, just look up at the sky and ask, "why do I feel this way?" You will be surprised but you will get and answer. You will be surprised!
Good things happen to those who stay sober!

God Bless

I get it. The thing for me was to shift my thinking. I thought all the fun was over... well that was just the disease working and making me get drunk again.

The mind is powerful. Train it to work for you. I found help in a group of other alcoholics.

I realized in college I was just different when it came to booze. I was always the first to start and the last to quit. But I had to go thru life for another 20 years and almost die due to liver and kidney problems before I finally decided to seek help. I just couldn't do it alone. I tried many times.

I will say a prayer for you to find the happy you. Because you deserve to be happy

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You may be able to find an alcoholic group on campus that's discreet.

It's tough to break that mentality that drinking equals fun.

For me it equaled disaster. I'm aware of that and wish I would have learned earlier.

There's a guy in my AA group. He's 32 years sober. Started at 18. He's 50 now. Successful and happy. I envy him that he didn't suffer all of the fate me and many other alcoholics suffered until we figured it out.

You're the lucky one, like him, and a few other younger adults in our meetings.

This is looking at the glass half full than half empty.

You're in college and thriving to your next endeavor without alcohol.

If drinking took you out, you could wipe out of college like many other alcoholics.

Find the gratitude.