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Good morning all,
I'm working with my thoughts this am and feel somewhat defeated. 31 days sober, I've been meditating, doing yoga and just feeling strong, centered and at peace. Last night my friend and co-worker calls me to check up on me. I made a mistake at work yesterday and felt really bad about it. A lingering case, with a large and demanding family. My boss was stressed about it. So of course, I felt badly. But he called me later on and told me he thought we would be able to fix the problem. so I actually forgot all about it. So I told my friend I had forgotten about it, but thanked her for checking up on me. She then goes on to say that I have been really frazzled and maybe I should start doing yoga. She says I know you have quit drinking and that's really really awesome, but I am picking up on your energy and maybe it's not even work stuff you are frazzled about. She then goes on to remind me about 6 months ago when I wanted to take a month off from work due to stress of my divorce and issues with my childrens struggles. She says maybe you should still think about that. She then says, that "you really need this job and I can't imagine working with anyone else but you" (we share an office) " I don't want to have to train someone and get used to someone else...."
WOW. Now I am questioning everything. I have felt the best I have now than in the whole 2015 year. This really threw me for a loop. Anyone experience something similar? I don't know what to think.
I'm working with my thoughts this am and feel somewhat defeated. 31 days sober, I've been meditating, doing yoga and just feeling strong, centered and at peace. Last night my friend and co-worker calls me to check up on me. I made a mistake at work yesterday and felt really bad about it. A lingering case, with a large and demanding family. My boss was stressed about it. So of course, I felt badly. But he called me later on and told me he thought we would be able to fix the problem. so I actually forgot all about it. So I told my friend I had forgotten about it, but thanked her for checking up on me. She then goes on to say that I have been really frazzled and maybe I should start doing yoga. She says I know you have quit drinking and that's really really awesome, but I am picking up on your energy and maybe it's not even work stuff you are frazzled about. She then goes on to remind me about 6 months ago when I wanted to take a month off from work due to stress of my divorce and issues with my childrens struggles. She says maybe you should still think about that. She then says, that "you really need this job and I can't imagine working with anyone else but you" (we share an office) " I don't want to have to train someone and get used to someone else...."
WOW. Now I am questioning everything. I have felt the best I have now than in the whole 2015 year. This really threw me for a loop. Anyone experience something similar? I don't know what to think.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
But the problem was that all the imperfections and problems were still there when the booze wore off. And actually they were worse for the booze had heaped on more issues.
You are worth being sober, dont sabotage all you have going. Things do get better it just takes some time.
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For me, the key was letting go of all negative emotions, such as jealousy, anger, self pity, etc. This seemed to open the communication link between me and my Higher Power. Having been raised in the Christian faith, I equate that with the Holy Spirit working within me.
There are a couple of good books that explain this phenomenon. One is, "My ego, my Higher Power and me" by Jerry Hirschfield who also wrote "the 12 steps for everyone who really wants them: which is the AA 12 steps adapted for EHA (Emotional Health Anonymous) The 12 steps were a way for me to clear those blocks in the communication link between God and I. I was holding on to negativity. The biggest one being Guilt! Once I let that go, thats when my life began to change and miracles began to occur in my life. Not just occasionally by every day!
Another good book is "A course in Miracles" Kinda hard to understand but there are explanations all over You tube.
For me, the spirituality I gained from not drinking was well worth staying sober for!
God Bless!
But there was this friend I had at one time that whenever I would say something about things in my life, he would construe it as negatively as possible and offer me empathy and encouragement when none was really needed. This person had his own set of issues that I would not trade for.
I eventually stopped staying in touch with him because he made me feel negatively about myself, like I had to convince HIM that life was good. I'm no psychologist, but sounds alot like transference. He was looking at my comments based on his turd-colored glasses.
Point being, wonder if that is what is going on here with your co-worker. Don't let someone else tell you how you feel! Some people don't like to see others happy and improving themselves.
So YES! I suspect this co-worker is trying to sabotage you. And to make comments about your job possibly being in jeopardy? That is just not right.
I question her motives. From what you say it sounds like she is sabotaging you.
Everyone makes mistakes at work. Everyone. You acknowledge, fix, and move on. Don't let her comments get under your skin.
And nice job staying sober and on track!
The answer to that for me, was learning to love myself and truly believe I deserved better--not because I said so, but because I do! Law of the universe.
With loving yourself comes trusting yourself, and that is something truly empowering.
First of all, we all make mistakes-including your friend. The defining moment is not when we make a mistake (part of being human) but how we respond to it. Beating yourself up about it is neither healthy nor productive.
I think, in my own humble objectivity, you should not focus at all what this friend is telling you, and trust yourself enough to know what you should do. You know better than anyone in the world what your thoughts and consequential feelings are. Suggestions are just that: suggestions, including all these on here. But ultimately you are at the helm and it is in your hands to respond to others and their negativity (masked in positive language). Remember that no response is a response, too.