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Rough day 5

Sly
Sly

I'm having a hard day, I'm really depressed today. There are alot of things going on in my mind. My parents are in their mid 70's, my dad has dementia, I can see him fading away. My mom is OK for now. I'm already depressed, I just realized yesterday how close he is to completely losing it. I see them every day, I'm disabled, so I try to spend my time there while I still have the opportunity. I came home when they went down for naps. It is very hard to watch them fade away. I would normally have been drunk by now and it has crossed my mind, but I won't! I managed to make my errands without stopping at THE store, it was a monumental task! Only 2 and a half hours to bed time! My best part of the day lately! I hope tomorrow is a better day, depression is kicking my ass! Sly

AdelynRene
AdelynRene
Good job on getting through today. It really is a victory, and I hope you can find a moment to pat yourself on the back.
1is2many
1is2many
Good for you for not stopping. Keep it going in the right direction and the body will begin to normalize. Also the disease is telling you the lie that a drink will help. Tell it that you decide to make the choice for you today. Don’t self sabatoge anymore
1is2many
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
It sounds like you are giving your heart and your soul to your parents which is understandable but you may need more support for yourself to recharge your batteries. Drinking will make you feel alot worse but today, you made the right decision so keep on keeping on!

God Bless
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
Sounds like they need a sober son. Being there will make a positive impact on your mindset. I’m sorry you’re feeling down.
Peat
Peat
Accept it. You will be old one day too. Hopefully not a depressed drunk, but a sober serene elderly person which other folk would like to have you around them.

You cannot help anybody while drunk. If anything a burden. They say AA is a selfish program. Why? because you have to take care of yourself FIRST. If you don't, you won't be able to take care of anybody else.

So, be willing to go to any lengths to not have that first drink. It's not easy. If it was, everybody would be doing it. Plaese don't use prayer as your last resort. It works better if you start early in the morning ;-)
1is2many
1is2many
How’s it going Sly? About a week? 1-2
Sly
Sly
I screwed up! Day 1, have meeting schedule will travel...
Melody100
Melody100
Hi, I am glad you have a meeting schedule. I don’t know your alcoholism story but it is good to hear you are reaching out for help. There has been dementia with a loved one in my family too, it is a really difficult thing to deal with. In my country there are support groups for dealing with such things and I hope there are wherever you are too.
LettGoBreathe
LettGoBreathe
Keep pushing through. Take each victory and feel grateful. You are very strong. Addiction is one of the hardest things to overcome. We all are here for you.
judgefitness
judgefitness
Caring for a loved one, regardless of age, health or disability is difficult, stressful and tiring for the care giver. It exhausts a healthy person so I can only imagine how emotionally and physically drained it leaves you whilst coping with your own disability. Watching their deterioration is heartbreaking and it leaves you feeling out of control.
Drinking was my way of coping with the massive changes to my life and our family life when I became the carer. I felt resentment because we are both young(ish) our lives were turned upside down and things that we would normally do on the spur of the moment became a military mission, planned with contingency plans in place.
I became depressed, anxious and self sabotaged by drinking to blackout to stop feeling the emotions which left me feeling guilty.
What drink didn’t do was change anything, I woke feeling the same emotions and feelings BUT more depressed and anxious and this went on for months until I finally saw what my behaviour was doing to my daughter - my actions were upsetting her more than facing the fear of her father’s illness.
You need to be strong, focused and well to help your parents BUT you also need to find time for YOU! Whether that’s simply reading a book or doing something else that you enjoy. Whilst you look after your parents, who looks after you? Where do you get support from??? Don’t let it be the booze because believe me it changes nothing x
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