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Resentment

sobriety26
sobriety26

I am one of the luckky ones and am sober.  But I do get resentments and resent my family members.  They are either alcoholic or religious.  I don't agree with my sisters beliefs but never argiue with them.


I made adments when I worked the steps years ago but that isntl was done years ago.

PJ54
PJ54
Hello sobriety26,

Maybe it would be a good time to revisit the steps with the help of a good sponsor. There are detailed instructions in Step 4, Big Book, pages 63-67 on how to deal with resentment but it takes the guidance of a sponsor in order to get the intended meaning.
1is2many
1is2many
The thing is that usually when I get upset with someone, it's a trait that I see myself in them. The thing is resentments are very dangerous. I have been told that a way to turn it around is to find five good things about the person. They aren't all bad, make a list and say a prayer for them. It works when I get upset w fam
1is2many
gr8tful2be
gr8tful2be
Sobriety, are you using Spellcheck?
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
If you still have resentments you may need to revisit your inventory and see what haunts you.
Impermanence
Impermanence
The 11 step is meditation. Learn mindful meditation. Bill W said that AA does not have he expertise in meditation. You need to find an outside source to learn meditation. Google it. I took a Great Course on Mindful Meditation.
sobriety26
sobriety26
Thanks for all the imput. I don't want to pray for someone so I will keep my resentment until I do.
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