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Resentments are sneaky, tricky little things. They can convince us they're justified. They can dry up our hearts. They can sabotage our happiness. They can sabotage love.
Most of us have been at the receiving end of an injustice at some time in our lives. Most of us know someone who's complained of an injustice we've done to him or her. Life can be a breeding ground for resentments, if we let it.
"Yes, but this time I really was wronged," we complain.
Resentments are a coping behavior, a tool of someone settling for survival in life. They're a form or revenge. The problem is, no matter whom we're resenting, the anger is ultimately directed against ourselves.
Take a moment. Search your heart. Have you tricked yourself into harboring resentment? If you have, take another moment and let that resentment go.
God, grant me the serenity that acceptance brings.
Most of us have been at the receiving end of an injustice at some time in our lives. Most of us know someone who's complained of an injustice we've done to him or her. Life can be a breeding ground for resentments, if we let it.
"Yes, but this time I really was wronged," we complain.
Resentments are a coping behavior, a tool of someone settling for survival in life. They're a form or revenge. The problem is, no matter whom we're resenting, the anger is ultimately directed against ourselves.
Take a moment. Search your heart. Have you tricked yourself into harboring resentment? If you have, take another moment and let that resentment go.
God, grant me the serenity that acceptance brings.
Standard AA topic ...
I almost skipped over this post until later ... because
I have a little time in AA, & I know a lot about ' resentments.'
WRONG ! ... thank you again ...
the way you laid it out and presented it ...
busted right through my self appointed ...
... I know plenty about 'resentment' status.
This was something I needed to hear this a.m.
Thanks for sharing ... fabulous !
Jimmy
Defiantly didn't post this to defend AA"s position , just life in general.
That's when I gained a new perspective. Up to that point, I thought the world was out to get me. I discovered that the only person out to get me was me! I definitely would not have worked up to that level of self examination had I not walked into the rooms of AA.
The longer I stay sober, the more I come to realize exactly what you said.
It's been an eye opener, how much of the misery in my life was all in my hands. But realizing this and acting to correct this behavior has had such sweet rewards.
Thanks for sharing.
IMO resentment is a lack of gratitude - and overly indulgence in expectations - we are not guaranteed perfection here on earth and no matter how we change our lives, no how much of the right things we do - we are not "owed" anything and if others have more, get more, and life seems easier for them, then so be it.
you can not have peace in your heart or be truly happy if you have resentment.
peace!
Now, I choose to only keep the non-toxic people in my life. I've had enough of the toxic ones.
Lots to think about. b
Just did some writing last week as a matter of fact and just getting it out, asking myself if I had ever done what was done to me before and what my part was in all of it helped immensely! Resentments are like gas, gotta get it out, there's more room out than in. :)
When this appeared in my inbox yesterday it was just what I needed. I forwarded it to someone and told them that, no matter what they had done, I held no resentment with them and it was all about growth.
Then today....I had another Hazelden that really hit the mark. How do they do that?
Yep, I try not to pick them up and when I do, I work on them and try to get rid (work through and step 10). It is up to me whether I carry the bricks or not. !