You have moved forward, his daughter has not. If she is still holding on to this resentment after all this time, it is her issue, not yours. That doesn't mean you were right or vindicated for what you did but you did make your ammends, right? She may never find it in her heart to forgive you, this is something you will just have to live with. The main thing is that you have forgiven yourself.

I had a similar conversation with my Mother a few weeks back. I was talking and reminiscing about some of the shit we went through as kids, not in a hateful way, but rather just remembering. Well, my Mother is still very sensitive about it all even though she has been sober for over 25 years. She asked me "how long will she have to pay for her past mistakes? For the rest of her life?" I told her YES. You will BE responsible for your past mistakes for the rest of your Life and things could be worse, she could have HIV like me and be constantly reminded of her past like I AM and will be for the rest of my Life. She seemed to put it all into perspective then.

BE WELL.

JoAnn

We can not relive the past, we can only live today. Many or most alcoholics have things in there past that greatly hurt their loved ones and those around them. Of course we are supposed apologize to everyone we hurt as long as doing so won't hurt them. Past that, the only person you can control is yourself. She is not in your realm of control. She is going to do what she is going to do. The best thing we can do is to stay sober and treat people well until they regain faith and trust in us. Maybe there are things where we can never get rid of negative feelings towards us for what we did. Then we have to go on and take care of ourselves and let others take care of themselves.

If you have admitted your wrong and made ammends and she won't forgive you it's her problem now. She is more miserable in her hate. It's time for you to let it go and forgive yourself. YOu have done all you can do.

Thanks guys, this really helps. :)