Anna, just remember we have all been there @ one time or another.
some get it, some don't

hope all is well with you today.

Yes, I know people like that and it is sad. I used to be one of them, but that was decades ago. Now, I take full responsibility for my end of things and it's such a wonderful, empowering feeling!! I wouldn't give it up for anything!!!! It's only through holding myself responsible that I can be happy and peaceful!!!
Learning to take responsibility is one of the most important 'life lessons' that I have learned!!!!

Yep' I agree been there and done that for a VERY long time. It took YEARS to develop self awareness thru years of 12 step recovery and therapy. It has occurred to me; some people just dont want it- its too painful.

Oh I am so on your page with this one, Carla.
I find that I am so much more content in all areas of life when I take responsibility of all areas of my life, especially the bad areas.

You're so right HTL.

I need people in my life who have the courage to challenge my old ideas. And it's definitely a blessing to have them in my life.

Also, due to strong sponsorship, taught to look at the part I play in situations that occur. When I'm acting out, I also learned to identify what I'm afraid of. Fear triggers all my character defects. Tough stuff but very rewarding. What price peace of mind. Atta girl HTL.

Look at it this way, if someone is blaming everyone else for their problems, imagine how out of control they must feel. I mean, if everyone is to blame, certainly there is nothing they can do to fix it. Just have to sit back and wait-and of course this is nonsense. But how dibilitating that would be! Perhaps they want to remain debilitated though.

It is not your issue though-your issue is to secure boundaries with people who are not acting in a healthy manner, and stick to what you can fix, yourself.

Yes, I too have been there.....if you had my life you would drink too! LOL It is the nature of the disease, selfishness, self-centeredness, self-seeking, dishonesty and fear. Unfortunately, without the help of others, I would have been lost....floating endlessly in a sea of denial

It took time and effort on my part and the loving hand of others in recovery to chip away the delusions that kept me from the very freeing act of accepting responsibility for my life. And while not all of these are completely gone....self-awareness allows me to quickly identify them when they rear their ugly head and take action to correct any mistakes along the way.

The very sad fact is that those who don't ever master the art of self-appraisal will probably never know the joy, peace and satisfaction in life of those who have persevered in praticing these life-saving skills.

Pray for them
Ree

Yes! Self deception for me was the hardest thing to detect. I was always thinking I wonder what is behind door # 2 or three , when in fact all I was really doing was guessing what was normal or healthy behaviors. That got real old after awhile and I finally became more suited to apply to myself what I was taking action and becoming aware of. My perception of what was really occurring and how it was acting itself out in My life . Consequences a big part of the recovery process!
Billy