Welcome :) I hope you find the strength you need to overcome this problem. This is definitely a good start.

Thanks!! I don’t have an issue not drinking, but dammit when I do, I can’t stop!! Why is that??

I’m such an introvert, but when I drink, I can talk to anyone. Hate that!

I started as a binge drinker. It seemed to be fueled by a need for social interactions that were different than what I was used to. I went as long as over a year without touching a drink, but the binges became longer each time.

Alcohol is a drug. I found that I needed more and more of it to get the same effect. In reality I was just using it to create a fake me. And I really hate fake ness.

The merry go round will keep going around until you are ready to choose a different way to live.

Just quitting I was miserable. Until I found a replacement I was angry, sad, and depressed. Without something to fill the hole that was my addiction. I was doomed

1is2many

So how you do stop feeling like that. I feel like such a loner, don't want to do or talk to anyone without it. Ugh!

Binge drinkers can stop for a long time, but when they start again, they keep going until they stop once more. What happens, is that their body cannot cope with the amount of alcohol. The binge drinker crashes and their body often needs to take some time to physically recover.

The binge drinker can stop for a few days or several months at a time.

The problem with binge drinkers:

1/ They often do not think they are alcoholic due to the periods of abstinence, thinking they are in control, but eventually do get back to the drink.

2/ Over time, the spell between binges may decrease. If their resources that allow them to drink is always available, they may experience more regular drinking episodes.

3/ Eventually, some binge drinkers become top-up drinkers, drunk all the time. Some die from alcohol related problems which are more related to too much alcohol in their system, such as alcohol poisoning.

4/ Many mental patience who suffer from Korsakoff Syndrome were binge drinkers. It is a type of permanent blackout. No longer able to retaining short term memory.

5/ Because they drink in excess, and far above what the body can cope with, they are more prone to alcoholism. This is due to partial breakdown of alcohol by the liver, and these by-products have been tagged as the cause for addiction,

6/ Binge drinkers are least likely to be able to control their drinking no matter what interventions are introduced. Basically, their only option is total abstinence. That is, they will need to learn how to love life without a drink. Which is more doable than drinkers know.

I strongly recommend getting a professional diagnosis.

Many of my close friends were binge drinkers. They are very happy chappies, including their family members, for no longer having to drink.

There is peace in surrender. Start there. Jmo

Hi Leena! Most people have underlying issues such us depression or anxiety etc. that trigger their drinking and that is why addiction is listed as a mental health disorder because it is a symptom of deeper emotional issues.

You say you are an introvert means that you are in need of a mountain of support and AA is a great place to find that support. I highly recommend.

Keep us posted. The path you take on your road to recovery might help someone else.

God Bless

You say you can’t stop drinking once you start drinking leena and that is one indicator for alcoholism - loss of control. Once gone, it does not come back. I don’t know anyone who has had a problem with drinking who didn’t feel isolated or alone. That is because drinking to deal with feelings isolates a person and only ever makes it worse. Get help before you fall deeper in the hole. Personally I got my path to recovery through AA.

You aren't alone here.

When I decided to get help I went to a room of other alcoholics. The first time was really intimidating and I didn't want to touch or hug anybody. But, a little bit over time I was able to come to open up and trust and all without the crutch of booze. Its like i missed the lesson in life about how to interact with others. I went straight to booze for courage and then was unable to do it on my own. I found out that I was not different from many other people that have an issue with booze. The booze was not the problem, the problem was how I handled life. Today I have learned how to cope and how to handle things that come up in life. It takes action and like going to the gym for a workout, I really don't want to go, but after I walk out I am so glad I did.

I honestly can't believe I haven't had a drink in 6 years. I still go to a couple of meetings a week to see how I can help the next alcoholic and somehow this helps me. I need to keep the fact that Im an alcoholic in my focus, or I will drink.

Get busy, get sober

1is2many

Two fairly typical types of drinkers that morph into alcoholics are the self-medicating folks looking to numb down whatever pain they have going on in their head and/or the escape artists who drink to suppress their inhibitions and self-doubt and find the intoxication (temporarily) liberating. Some are both.

In both cases, and as with myriad other alcoholic types, the motivation to drink is less about the seductive power of drink and more about the some deeper emotional issue that is gnawing away which alcohol gives temporary relief from (at first).

If you find that one drink leads to 12 virtually every time, there is probably something there in the fight-or-flight level of your psychic world that just loves the release. It is not rational, nor is it even conscious. It is super dangerous. That kind of drinking will get you into blackout territory.

Why do you think you can't stop at 3 or 4 drinks like others?

may the force be with you

leena515,
Welcome to the group! You should never feel isolated, especially in a group like this. We are all experiencing relatively the same thing and its important to reach out to others. Just know that we are all here ready to help whether thats providing advice or simply being here to listen and understand what you are going through. Again, feel free to reach out whenever you feel the need.