Like to say hello and not really sure what to do or say. Little about myself im 44 married for 25 years this year been sober for 4 years now.I am stumbling alittle bit and like to get different thoughts. I gave up drinking (beer guy) after a blow out fight with my wife and she really told me straight out hold nothing back!!!!!! And i am greatful and love her for doing so i want to make that clear! Now for the last 3 years she has taken up casual drinking and increasingly doing so behind my back. Not at all abusing alcohol! I get it i drank for years! But i gave it up to save our marrige at her demand cold turkey havent cracked one in for years. Doesnt that count for something? Superbowl night she and her sister was going to a superbowl party so i stayed home. They were going to a friends or maybe a cousins party. Next morning there are bar mugs and tee shirts on the counter. i asked her and she very softly said they went to a sports bar instead...... breathe mints to boot so am i thinking that this isnt the best support? And without starting a fight how do i approach her about this? Or let it go? Ladys chime in i dont mind honesty!
I got sober 18 years ago, with AA, a sponsor and the steps. I stayed sober for five years even though I left AA. My mission then became to show myself that I could be a 'social' drinker. I've been doing this for over 12 years. Even recently I didn't drink for 2 years but I returned to it for a couple test drives and things didn't go well. I'm bipolar and take medication to keep myself steady but...
Please help me. My significant other constantly drinks. How can I cope with his addiction without further arguments. It hurts me deeply when I find out instead of him being honest with me.