Like to say hello and not really sure what to do or say. Little about myself im 44 married for 25 years this year been sober for 4 years now.I am stumbling alittle bit and like to get different thoughts. I gave up drinking (beer guy) after a blow out fight with my wife and she really told me straight out hold nothing back!!!!!! And i am greatful and love her for doing so i want to make that clear! Now for the last 3 years she has taken up casual drinking and increasingly doing so behind my back. Not at all abusing alcohol! I get it i drank for years! But i gave it up to save our marrige at her demand cold turkey havent cracked one in for years. Doesnt that count for something? Superbowl night she and her sister was going to a superbowl party so i stayed home. They were going to a friends or maybe a cousins party. Next morning there are bar mugs and tee shirts on the counter. i asked her and she very softly said they went to a sports bar instead...... breathe mints to boot so am i thinking that this isnt the best support? And without starting a fight how do i approach her about this? Or let it go? Ladys chime in i dont mind honesty!
My mental health has been in the sh***er for the past few weeks. Hell, who am I kidding, it’s been there since I can remember. If I’m not eating myself to death, I’m drinking. I’m feeding all of this garbage into my body and polluting my mind. I never feel in control of anything. Just when I think I’m doing great at work, dieting, drinking, etc. my brain finds a way to bring me down...
My husband doesn’t see that he has a drinking problem, which makes me feel crazy. He will drink a 12 or 15 pack in a day and then forget everything he says and does. I have finally given him an ultimatum. I just don’t know what else to do.