the trick is to put the plug in jug and not take another drink ever one day at a time....

AA is a welcoming place for many who have alcoholism but for some it is not...women should be sticking with women when they get to AA rather than socializing with men whose primary objective is to get laid...I say that kiddingly but they talk of 13th stepping where the men or women go out of their way to get into new relationship with a newcomer to AA....that is bad and it is recommended that no new relationships happen sexually within the first year of sobriety.....

I would go to a meeting if you have no idea what they are like...pick one that is convenient of course to your home....then meet some of the same sex....and stick with the winners who share things that are helpful to you

I drank from the age of 15-38. Lots. I would drink until I didnt feel. Why? I liked the effect that alcohol produced, Thats why. The thing was that Alcohol masked my issues and didnt allow me to cope the normal way with any of life. I just made like an ostrich and stuck my head in the sand. I tried moving, and changing my drinks, I tried not buying it, I tried so many things. The thing was I couldnt learn why I was boozing so hard. Finally I had enough and decided to seek help. I went to my first meeting on June 10, 2012. I made new friends and created new routines. Today the lure of escape is still there, but I know that I will drink too much and embarrass myself and then have to drink still more to hide from my embarrassment. It was a nasty cycle. There is a hope for living without booze. You just have to make some changes and want it. I believe you deserve to be happy and can be if you choose to be.
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I know it is hard and you need support , it is very alienating and seems there is not one recipe other than getting help in the form of support groups detox and counseling for starters. Some have mental illness and that compounds it, seek help from life not the end of a bottle is a start , There are many helplines . there is help right here good luck

Believe me when I say you have can do this! If I can do this even for the 43 days I'm in this, you can do it to. One day at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. It's Not easy but soooo worth it. I feel the healthiest that I have ever felt physically and mentally. I will keep you in my prayers stay close to this site.

Thank you so much everyone. I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes. I have felt so all alone in this battle. I know I've hurt and will continue to hurt the ones I love most if I continue to drink. It want to be happy and full of life again! I found a womens only meeting not to far from where I live.. it is at 7pm tomorrow night. I am so scared to go. Not sure how AA works. And if I can just walk in or not. I. Guess the only way I'll find my way is to put one foot in front of the other and move forward. Thank you so much for your support. It gave me hope!

I use to drive myself to a nearby AA meeting and sit in the parking lot because I was too afraid to walk through the door! After doing that for 3 or 4 times, I put on a brave face and walked through the door! It was the best decision I ever made! That was over 8 years ago. Today, I am happier now then I have ever been and I live my life by the 12 steps!

God Bless!

Nothing changes if nothing changes Cmon! There is nothing like a room full of friends that want you to succeed. You can be whatever you want, just get off defense... get into action
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Maybe if there is a contact number you could callup and see if someone can meet you outside to bring you in? Otherwise bite the bullet and just do it! You just follow everyone else and tell someone female you are new. It's really a huge breakthrough. First time I went I said Im Dinah and Im an alcoholic and started crying. What a relief to finally admit it. Keep us posted . Big hugs. PS your son will be very glad, I'm picking.

Hi there. I so appreciate your willingness to share about your struggles. I know that it’s not easy, and I can tell that you’ve taken the most important step by seeking help. I just said a prayer for you, and I hope that God will provide the strength and comfort you need at this time. You might want to check out these organizations: Road to Freedom (http://bit.ly/1ZoSWOz) and Lighthouse Network (http://bit.ly/2fXwo5Y). Please know that we all care about you and we’re here to offer support and encouragement. Stay strong and be blessed. Sending hugs & prayers your way!

How are you today?
I just got back from the first AA meeting I've been to in a few weeks. I was reminded how hard it was to go through those doors the first time in March of 2011 every time I take meetings for granted, don't go for a while, and sort of get out of the "groove" so to speak. I have heard many times that our disease wants us dead but will settle for isolated and drunk...I don't know about that. But I do know that many alchi's I meet are like you, and like me..we isolate when in our disease. So what's amazing is when you go into an AA room most everyone there will*relate* to how you feel. Its one of the miracles of AA.
Try a meeting! If it doesnt feel right; try another, and so on. check back in and tell us how it goes.

Did you go to the meeting tonight? I have only been to one and want to go to more because it felt like I belonged. Oh I hope it went well for you.

My first meeting was so scary. I remember trying to make a million reasons why I would just go tomorrow. Then I told myself there would always be another tomorrow after that and finally dragged my butt out of bed and to the meeting. The best group of people there. I have been going to the same one for 9 and a half months now. I hope you find it as helpful as I have

I'm doing much better this evening but went through hell a couple of nights ago. I crashed and bjurned when or after I shared in another AA meeting.

I started to share then froze up. THe whole meeting was staring at me and I couldn't come out with a sentence. I did better last night but thjat is now.

Good morning everyone. I'd like to thank everyone here for the support and understanding that was/is being shown to me. I'm not alone in this battle that has consumed my life. Yes with everyone's words of encouragement I went to my first ever AA meeting last night. The meeting was at 7 pm. I arrived at 5:45 pm. I approached the first woman that was there to unlock the doors. I asked if there was an AA meeting here tonight and she yes. I walked in with her and we talked for 20 minutes before people started to show. Those women were so uplifting. There was 8 of us there., a small group but that's exactly what I needed. They gave me all of their phone numbers and want me to call just to say hi! 2 ladies offered to be my sponsor. Monday 4 of us are going to a much larger women only meeting. When I arrived home last night In a good place mentally. I thanked god for all of you for being there when I needed help the most. I gave thanks for the courage I needed just to walk through the door. I know it's always going to be a challenge to not drink anymore but this is a battle I will win. Today I'm not ashamed of myself. And I'm not alone anymore. I want to feel that way always! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your thoughts and prayers that's what gave me the hope and strength to take the first step. God bless you all!

Wow! What a great ending to what started to be a sad story! Today is the first day of the rest of your life!

God Bless!