A lot of people choose not to go through chemo, their life, their decision. Although it can be difficult for relatives to understand, loving support is so important at such times. I have a close friend with cancer who is considering such a decision right now.

so sorry to hear about it.

we are here with you in your time of stress and struggle.

it must be so difficult, words are trite in times like these.

Hold strong my friend.

I can understand your moms choice. You said she didn't have long with the chemo right? Sounds like she is choosing quality of life for what's left of it. I remember thinking when you posted on before & I thought about if I were in her shoes. Pretty sure that was your discussion I am remembering.

Sorry, I can only imagine what you're going through.

You know that when are emotions are high, alcohol makes us do things we will regret later. So, stay strong. Have some relaxing Pam-time tonight - hot tea, bubble bath, good book/movie ...

*Hugs*
~Lisa

I am sure it hurts watching someone you love suffer. I think it's something most everyone goes through at some point in life. I remember my dad would have lived a little longer if he would have agreed to a surgery that would have prolonged his life but not the quality.

I became angry but looking back, I realized my anger was me being selfish, and letting him go and watching him die was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do. I also remember another time when my dad was consoling me after a coworker had past away and he said, "death is a part of life and we have to learn to accept it," and I think of that every time someone close is dying or has past. Just simple acceptance seems to make it easier, kinda like accepting I have a problem with alcohol. I know I can't beat it so I accept it, like dying and death!

This is a good post because it is something that has triggered my drinking in the past but I handle it differently now.

I will keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless!

I cannot imagine what you're going thru right now. I will pray for both of you tonite and hope that you will be ok with all that is going on. Th3 thing that really gave me urges ( and still does ) was not being in control. I just don't do well when I'm not in charge. I found that belief and asking God for some help was a way to help in these rough times. I pray you find peace in her decision.
1is2many

Big hugs. I pray for peace for you and your loved one.

Pam, sending hugs your way.

If you had a friend in your situation, what would you want for her? I bet you would tell her that she is loved. I bet you would let her know that you are always there for her. You would watch out for her and make sure that she stayed sober, because that might be the single most important thing to getting through this difficult time in one piece.

Look out for Pam. Be your own best friend. You deserve it.