Thanks for reaching out friend. Just having one thing to deal with is tough enough but the other I don't know because I'm not there. Maybe intervention? Does she see someone for her other mental issue?
As for you have been doing a little 11th step work if ya use the steps for your recovery?

I will also mention acceptance on your part is key, but ya might want to hearing that right now but in reality it is.

Wish ya well.

I'm sorry DT, I know that's got to be hard! Can you get her into a rehab for a bit maybe?

Good luck to you and your family....hang in there!

I don't know if she is seeking professional help at this point but I would definitely get her in to see a psych doc for an evaluation. They can also help her therapeutically with her addiction problem. I became dependent on alcohol when I was self medicating for bipolar disorder. Even after I was dx, I continued to drink - would take myself of my meds - because my denial was soooo bad. This was off and on for years but I didn't realize just how sick I was. She may have a dual diagnosis which imo needs to be managed by a Psych Doctor- NOT a GP. Threatening to OD is a cry for help in desperation and should be taken seriously at all times. It sounds like she is in a lot of pain but as you know, the "want" to get the help is crucial. Sounds Like she wants it to me. She is probably acting out because she is just so frustrated as to get a handle on her problems and how she feels. Continue to be patient with her and let her know you are there to help. Baby steps one day at a time..

thanks guys. She sees a counselor, takes meds, goes to meetings, goes to church, calls people. It just isn't gettin it done. What the hell is left to do?

Dear Don'tRead,

Dual diagnoses is very difficulf for the suffered. The addiction exacerbates the mental illness and vice-versa. Many times, extended in-patient treatment or hospitalization (in a mental health ward) is required. This should NOT be viewed as a shortcoming of the sufferer, but should be viewed as a NECESSARY step to recovery.

In the meantime, remember that there is nothing you can do to get your daughter-in-law into treatment. She has to do it (and want it) herself. Be wary of your own sobriety while dealing with others'. Do not run yourself down or worry yourself to death. You could end up relapsing.

Ask your daughter-in-law if you can talk to her councelor. Tell her that you love her and want to help however possible. But be clear that you cannot ENABLE her behavior. Treat her as you would a sick friend. Treat yourself as a valuable human being. Do not sacrifice yourself for her. Know your limits and then attempt to help her.

Wayne-

You need to reach out and get some counseling on this,dealing with family members is tough. Take out the phone book and start taking phone calls, the thing is she said she wants to OD mean you better get some help for her as soon as you can. Take care and hope it works out for the best. She may hate your guts at first but stand your ground and hopefully her mom is on the same page as you.