Good reminder. Also, I know this is the season of giving but with this alcoholism thing-you need to be selfish to survive! For me, that means turning down an invite to a party that I know the booze will be flowing, and also a woman in my son's class asked me if I wanted to go out with her and some other women this Friday for "girls night out"...know that means booze. I am lonely and could certainly use some chick time-but can't do it!

No WAY will I go to a party with a lot of booze this season-even if I hurt other's feelings or seem weird. I want to live.

i agree..i rather be alone and sober than drunk and desperate again

bumpity bump

Self-kindness and self-forgivness doesn't come naturally or easily to me but I will keep your kind thoughts in mind. Thanks!

Hugs to you all, and it is a good idea to just stay away. There will be other parties and girls nights later on, Excellent thinking

My mentor and I were just talking about this. I was reminded today that I have several assets -- might be a good time to stir up some of them.

The pity-pot has a long line for my type this time of year.

My mentor said, "I can whoop myself harder that anybody else can." We then agreed just how true that statement is. Paul told his young Timothy, "Stir up the gift that is in you."

I think that I will write a gratitude list, today.

i like what you said about paul..we can be our own worst enemy..taking ourselvs hostage lol

Last night I had to go on a work thing and sat in a pub for 3 hours and could see people with the drinks! I even looked at a girl with a glass of wine and thought 'how can you drink that so slowly!!' A reminder that my disease takes every opportunity to come knocking and a reminder of where I dont want to be.

This is my first christmas so I know I just need to keep things in the day and not go to places such as that. Thanks for the post :)

I was thinking about this kathy, I REALLY don't approve of you promoting masturbation, I mean, GRODY!!!!!