Fantastic! Knowing we can go an entire year with all the ups and downs without a drink is proof of a higher power. It’s more than faith now, it’s fact. Some say the first year is all about me doing whatever it takes for me to get sober. The second year is when it becomes more about others. It gets a bit squirrelly at times, but it gets even better in year 2. Here’s to 2019 one day at a time!

Great effort in making 365 right choices. I hear you about never thinking it could be so empowering. I love my sobriety. It’s shown me how to live in the present moment. Something I will not turn my back on. EVER.

When we destroy ourselves, is the only time we become teachable.

Keep following your heart and congratulations on a year!'

God Bless

Congratulations! That's a pretty, pretty, pretty... pretty good!

Happy New Year! I hope you're dancing again in another year. Hope I'm doing the same.

May I ask how you did it?

It’s great being free of alcohol, but there are many others things I had to work on, my fear and anger. My resentments. My old self was a shell. The new sober me has so much more to be and do. Life is good. Congrats on 365 days of the good choices

"It is more than faith now. It is fact." I couldn't agree more. This past year has definitely been squirrely. When I started 2018 sober I wasn't even sure if it would last longer than a year. I knew I needed to get sober but I wasn't sure for how long. Now I know it will be sticking around for the rest of my life. Living in the now, vibrating higher, thinking clearly, working through and with my problems, issues and traumas, all of it is wonderful. Life is more beautiful than I ever understood before. Finding my true self of unconditional love just in the past month has solidified my decision even more. I CAN'T go back.

As far as how I did it. I could see my drinking was excessive but I thought I was in control. One night I went home and started chugging ever-clear from the bottle in the freezer. The drinking amplified my anger and it was awful. Being BPD, I have physically violent rages anyway and going into that under the influence was just the topper. I told my partner that night to hide the bottle or dump it. I never got drunk again. Something In me changed that night. I hated myself for who I had become. It was either drink myself to death or change. I chose change.

That's not to say it wasn't easy. Coming into 2018 I made it a sober year. there was no option to drink. Just had to see what happened as I stayed sober. There was a slip up or 2 in the six months but I never got DRUNK. The drink or two I did have tasted awful and made me feel like shit.

I built my life around being sober. Started riding my bike for work and was doing 100-300 miles a week. I stopped hanging out with my drinking buds. I started taking Kratom to stabilize (off of that now). I made plans to move from a toxic city and into a quieter, more community oriented place. I am not looking for meetings to go to and I will be attending my church again out here.

I guess in short, How I did it. I made a choice. And I fuckin stuck to it when it was hard.

I didn't put myself in places where I was tempted to drink. I cried out my anger and sadness and felt thru them rather than pushing those feelings away and numbing myself. Being celibate was really huge for me too. Sex addiction and substance abuse were too intertwined for me.

oh and I demanded respect of myself and my decision to not drink. Don't do it around me or we are not friends. Don't talk about your drunk night with me, I will walk away. Don't offer me a beer, Bye felicia.
And respect of MY PERSON. Which is where the celibacy came in. Don't touch me. Don't get in my way. I've got work to do.
HAHAHA i've lost some friends but... where they really friends to begin with?

hugs and smiles for you on this special anniversary, congrats!

Congratulations on One year of sobriety! And I wish you many many more! Hugs

Thank you Thank you!!!! <3 <3 <3