Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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itstheshoes
itstheshoes
I'm just joining the support community. Looking for nonreligious advice to conquer my drinking. I drink everyday 1 to 1.5 bottles of wine plus take lexapro and xanax for anxiety and ambien cr to sleep. I want to stop all of this and just be "normal"- if there is such a thing. I've never "hit rock bottom", but I don't want to. I've been hungover and vomited at work, but never drank before work or called in sick. My husband drinks as well, but can control his better. We've been together 10 years and drinking has never interfered with our relationship.I'd love any comments or questions.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Welcome, there are many people in your shoes and a lot of good advice here. There are also many ways to abuse alcohol. I never drank before work either, but I still managed enough after work to negatively effect my health, job, and lots of other things.

Drinking with those drugs will really mess up your system. I don't now what "normal" is but I DO know what happy is. It takes awhile to learn to live without the daily crutch of alcohol and it takes practice too. Be patient with slow and steady progress in your life.

Have you tried to stop drinking yet? Or is today day one?
itstheshoes
itstheshoes
I've done it on several occasions. Cold turkey. Three months is the longest. Tomorrow is actually day one- hopefully the REAL day one. I'm so sick of this.Every time I come back to it, I get more and more stupid, even if I've stopped for a week, it's like I'm making up for lost time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
welcome to the group!!! please believe me. rock bottom will get you sooner or later. I slammed into rock bottom. don't let yourself get to that point.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hello there, Yes, you mirror me.

I functioned for awhile, taking xanax, Lunesta, and 1 bottle of wine a night. It has caught up to me and life has become unmanageable for me. I found all kinds of reasons to abuse alcohol and justify perscrip drugs. Even though I did everything legal, did not mean I was not abusing. I eventually quit my job because of things I was going through. Drinking was not helping but I did it anyway (liquid courage) to face "my jacked up life." I also justified the pills and wine because of all the stress I had at the time. Well, guess what, my drinking perpetuated my stress. It did not take it away. How weird? That is exactly why I justified my drinks: My Stress! Well, for me, alcohol is not the answer. Just take care of you!!! Also, you may want to just try an AA meeting.
deleted_user
deleted_user
welcome! Alcoholic's come in all shapes and sizes-and patterns of boozing. I drank like you and took benzo's like you throughout my 20's and early 30's. Then I stayed at home and started drinking in the day too. This is a progressive thing-gets worse and worse. Lots of us are/were "functional" alcoholics...and you will be surprised I am betting at how non functional you really are when you get sober and see clearly at how higher functioning you can be without booze.

Again, welcome. Hang in there and get to a doc so you can detox safely.