i think we should all be happy in the day and the moment as we may not have a tomorrow. Changes should always be an option, we all continuously make mistakes even if it's as simple as harboring an unkind thought to the person in front of on the road who didn't use their blinker -

If you feel that you have achieved who you want to be then that's fantastic and then I would say it would be time to make that person as awesome as you can make them.

Peace!

DT, I am not sober that long and have lots of things I need to look at in my life. Some changes are coming naturally by just not drinking a day at a time. I find that a lot of my fear has been lifted, not by conscious effort... just by doing what I'm supposed to be doing in the Program of AA.

For me, I thought I was just fine the way I was years ago. I had to drink to find out how wrong I really was. I don't think the work on ourselves ever really stops. A dear friend of mine is sober 36 years and he made mention yesterday of the changes he still nees to make in his life. It's that old "pointing a finger and three pointing back at us."

Make sense? Just ramblin' here.

~Chris

Growing is not necessarily change treadster. You can enhance your good qualities without changing who you are. If you're happy with the man you are then consider it that you've become the man you always wanted to be! :) I don't know what kind of man I want to be yet....lol! hee hee...

Thanks folks great food for thought. from all of you. LOL HC. and it makes alot of sense who's.
I guess at this point in my life it comes down to priorites.

HC, judging from your Avi, you ain't far from the man thing. LMAO
(I love Bea Arthur!!!)

xo
~Chris

Im just glad im not a man.sorry men I just love being a women.anyway donttread I fallow your posts and comments and I think your a pretty good put together guy.

Thanks Sherry. That's exactly what i want people to think and how good I am at fooling people! LOL
And ROFL on the Bea Arthur comment! sorry NHC, but ya gotta admitt she's right on the nose!

ya well I just fooled you cause I really am a man.lmao

When I was still drinking I honestly thought my life...as I knew it...pretty much over. I'm a bit older than you and saw people my age ...aging and dying and with the typical aches and pains of old age really had lost hope. What an amaging change both in attitude and body!! Today I think I'm a hot chick of 40!!!! j/k both the depression and aches and pains have eased and I actually look forward to tomorrow while enjoying today to the fullest.

To answer your question...I believe you CAN be a better...stronger...kinder and wiser man..yes there is still many years of growth left in YOU.

hahaha! Sherry's really a man...hee hee...

I agree, I love being a woman, I just painted my fingernails & toenails. Yeah, I loved Maude but she was a little scary..hee hee.. :)

you know who scares me? judge judy.

lol! I've always been scared of Joan Jett and John Lithgow. haha!

And I have a deeeeep hatred for Jennifer Love Hewitt & Andie McDowell. Can't stand them! ha!

You dislike Joan Jett, John Lithgow AND JLH?
So your not predudice, you hate everyone equally? LOL

Ha!!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zz1ntKkWitQ&feature=related

i hate "Holywood"......except for mr. depp in "benny and joon"


as for the man you want to be? fight a pup at marking your territory..........scooby snacks help. lol