He is an alcholic and we have been seperated for almost 5 months. When he was here with us he drank between 1.5-2 litres of wine every night. He stayed here on Easter Saturday and he hasn't changed. He drank the same amount. He also stole my mobile phone and sent nasty sms's to a male friend in another state so my friend would think it was me and this guy is just a friend. My ex checks my computer to see what sites I've been on and if I've been on a dating site then he freaks saying it's my fault that he still drinks because I do that. A friend of mine suggested I join the one she is in and go to the party room as it's a lot of fun. Thing is my ex joined them while we were married so he could veiw people's webcams and whatever they wanted to show. So I'm confused why mine is worse. My ex says I blame him for the marriage breakdown which I don't, I made mistakes too and when he asks me what he has ever blamed me for and I say to him well you say it's my fault you drink. He flips it on me and says I have to make everything about me. I just feel like I'm walking on egg shells. Dammed if I do and Dammed if I dont. I give him 'relations' everytime he comes over and asks for it. I don't mean to hurt him I just want some sort of a life. I can't go out because we have 7 young kids, he only takes 2 or 3 a night once in a while and I don't complain but I like talking to people on the net, it keeps me sane. I want him to stop drinking for the kids but I think he is now lost. He only went to one AA meeting and wouldn't go back because he thought the people there were beneath him. He wont go and see his Dr anymore because he thinks his Dr can no longer help him. People tell me to get a restraining order on him so he can't go through my stuff like that but I think that will make him worse and drink more. Is there anything I can do for him?