Hang in there. Find something else to do to distract you. I would pamper myself with other things. Chocolate, or a nice tea or something else. I know you can do it

Ca;; an old friend, rent a movie, go to bed early - whatever it takes to get you to tomorrow morning sober. You'll feel proud that you didn't give in and drink and can have a great Day 9!

Thanks guys. My boyfriend of about to go out and get booze. I asked him to get me some chocolate and zquil so I can just fall asleep. It's really tough when he drinks and I can't :/

He should be more compassionate to your struggle. He can't break just for a few weeks until
You get on more solid ground? Stay strong.

Ps pretty sure zquil loaded with alcohol

You don't want to drink and that is why you posted here. If it were me, I would get away from bf if he drank booze in front of me. This early in recovery with a sobriety that is still fragile, is a very bad time to be triggered.

God Bless

He did agree to not drink during the week and only on the weekend. Unfortunately, we live together, so I can't really get away from him. I did not realize NyQuil has alcohol! I just looked it up, 10%. I already took some :/ oops

P.s. I'm a very anxious person and one of the things I like about booze and weed is that it helps me fall asleep. I realize you don't sleep well when you drink, and that there are other options to help me sleep. I have really learned to love how alcohol shuts my brain off because I am constantly worrying and overanalyzing things.

Hey Pavlov,
I hope you got through the night OK. Let us know how it went.

Hello Pavlov7,

Hopefully the night has passed with no alcohol and that you still have a clear head.

This could be a good time to think about what you can do to make sobriety easier in the long term. It would be wise to find some way of changing your thinking so that no matter what other people do, you will react in the way that keeps you on the right course. This is something that will probably require outside help and in order to avail of that help you will need to be strongly committed to your vision of a happy and sober future.

There are various options available to anyone who desires to bring about this change of thinking so find one that you think is right for you. Some people do it through counselling and that can work but it is probably dependent on finding the right counsellor. Another option is the AA programme of recovery but that will only work if you are willing to give it a fair go.

I can relate to being an introvert and drinking alone because that is what I enjoyed doing. However, while I still value my own company, I now find it easy and natural to communicate with large or small groups of people. That is one result of the change of thinking that I have achieved through AA.

Maybe you need to get single-minded about sobriety and to make tough decisions. Learn the value of the word ‘no’ and be prepared to demand the respect and support that you deserve. You are an equal partner in the relationship with your boyfriend and maybe you need to be more proactive in telling him what you want and setting boundaries about things that are unacceptable such as having alcohol in the house or drinking in your presence in these early days of sobriety.

Worrying and over analyzing things... That was me to a T. I had to learn new ways to handle the things life throws at me. From a very early age I found that alcohol was a shortcut to being away from these things. I am basically lazy and was using booze as my coping mechanism. But booze was running my life. I got to where I needed /was addicted to it. It was a bad place. I would quit but never replaced the booze with anything. This time I found a bunch of other sober ppl and they have helped me learn how to cope with those things I used to drink over. I couldn't do it alone.
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Update: I did not drink last night. Thanks for the support!

Great News. Now you know that you can do it.

Great work. Toss all those NyQuil products also.

Hi Pavlov7 are you in AA? I got sober with a husband who was and is a regular drinker. We need to be able to live out there in the world, and many who arent alcoholic, will drink with impunity. We'll see that, and, if we are in a good place we'll be OK with it. If we arent; we can drink but no one makes us drink and I don't believe in outside "triggers." If I was at the mercy of outside triggers I'd be up shit creek. Instead I needed a program, tools and principals I could live with and a faith that kept me sober a day at a time. I found that, and still do today; in AA.